u/Kind_Basil_2885

what are examples of things that traumatize you throughout the day? genuinely asking so I can be more aware.

I (38F) have been craving physical intimacy with my aspie bf (48M) but anytime I bring up that it feels like he is not attracted to me and that I need more physical intimacy in the bedroom, he says he is attracted but then we still don’t do anything but cuddle. I’ve also brought up several times that I want a submissive dominant dynamic where he is the dominant and what that involves and he says ok but it doesn’t materialize past that.

I was wondering what I need to do because bringing it up for discussion is not working.. I should set an ultimatum?

wondering if anyone could please share advise on how they've welcomed change or asked for change in a relationship that was successful.

This helped me reason for most questions to Pass:

If asked FIRST → understand/assess/authorize before changing things

If asked BEST → choose long-term, risk-based, business-aligned answer

Don’t jump straight to a firewall/patch/tool unless specifically asked for technical action.