u/KindlyAppearance6397

I (31F) had been dating a guy (35M) for a few months.

I was really enjoying getting to know him and things were progressing nicely.

But, I’ve been dealing with some stressful stuff in my personal life recently. My mom got sick, my job suddenly got really stressful, and I found myself being tired all the time not being able to lean into things with him as much as I wish I could. For example, I cancelled a few plans last minute because of stress and overwhelm, which I didn’t think was fair on him.

I thought about it for a few days and decided I didn’t want to lead him on, so I called him and clearly but kindly ended it, making it clear it was nothing to do with him.

He seemed upset but accepted it. He suggested still seeing each other and taking things slow, but I said because I know he wants a relationship that wouldn’t be fair.

This was a few days ago and I feel so, so guilty and like I made completely the wrong decision. I was so worried about not leading him on that I think I jumped the gun and threw something amazing away.

My reasons for ending it were valid, but I regret not considering his suggestion of just taking things much slower while I deal with my personal life.

Would it be irresponsible to circle back?

I’m a 30 year old female and I’ve been on 10mg of citalopram for 5 months after a break up a year ago gave me a resurgence of extreme anxiety and OCD.

Overall it’s very positive, the nausea passed and I feel more settled than I have in years and it’s easier to manage my anxiety and OCD. My main symptom is fatigue but I’m dealing with that for now because the pros outweigh the cons.

I’ve started dating again, and I’ve noticed that I feel ‘numb’ towards other people in a way I never have before. I don’t feel numb in my emotions day to day, but I’ve met some people I would’ve been head over heels for before citalopram, but on citalopram I just feel really dulled, slight glimmers of excitement. It’s a weird feeling I can’t fully describe.

My sex drive has also dropped significantly (still there but not like before) which may be a contributing factor.

Has anyone else experienced the same? I’m not sure what to do because I’ve met someone amazing who makes me feel something through the numbness, but it’s just not as strong as anything I would’ve felt before citalopram.

I don’t know what to do because it’s impacting my interactions and how ‘forward’ I come across. I also don’t want to lead anyone on, I feel like I’m dating as a robot.