u/KingAlphonsusI

So, I'm waiting for a response on the interview and task I made for them. The company is a small marketing agency that is fast growing. I've been going through the entire process and I really have no reason to doubt them. But I also might be biased because I really want this job to work out (the salary is fine, is actually below avarage for the role, but in Brasil it get multiplied by 5 due to currency value, so its huge for me). I know its very unusual for companies to use telegram because its associated with scams.

They are not big, but they seem legit.

Just to show a picture of what happened so far:

-I wasn't contacted by the company itself at first, I was actually contacted by a job hunter at "Hire with Near" which is a legit Job hunting platform for LATAM contractors. They had sent me a couple of offers for other companies before actually.
-I made a video interview with the job hunter, and they moved me to the other phase at the same day (I don't think its weird because I showed my portifolio at the interview and I do know I have a great portifolio)
-They scheduled a meeting with one of the founders (small company, as I said) a week later. We did it via google meets (Video meeting, a saw his face, we talked normally, he made legit questions).
-He said that he was really impressed and wanted me to move to the next stage, which is sort of a test of my skill. Not a very complicated test, just had to create a couple of instagram posts for one of her clients. This is the part where they asked me to move to telegram. We exchanged some emails and he sent me his @
-They sent me the access for their platform in which I made the posts.
-I did the task and informed them that I was done.
-Right now I'm still waiting for a response, but I did asked yesterday when can I expect a response and although they haven't given me an exact date, they are responding and say that they are busy because they are hiring a lot of new employees but they are yet to review my application.

That's basically it.

There are a few green flags aswell:

-The company and the founder are verified on linkedn
-They have not asked me for any personal information, nor asked me to pay for anything, and its been a week since I send the task and I assume scammers want to make money quickly, because people tend to research on companies they find suspicious. The fact that I'm waiting the normal amount is a good sign to me. The fact that the process had 2 interviews and a task is also a good sign since scammers usually just make one interview and its usually via text.
-They have a normal crunchybase and datanyze profile.
-I actually found the founder on instagram and he has 200k followers (And I can confirm is the same guy I made the interview with)
-Normal location, normal registration, copyright, etc...

Red flags:

-They website is small, not a lot of information about them online but as I said they are small and fast growing (and on the job listing they are searching for webdesigner so I guess they want to improve that)
-The major red flag is Telegram by far. Since people call it "scamming heaven". But than again, some small companies can still used it, although I don't think it's a good decision.

What do you guys think?

We started dating about 6 months ago, but we've been friends for waaaay longer. Last year we went out a lot, but since we started dating, she's been extremely tied up with work. She works for USP [University of São Paulo] and helps out with events. She is very busy on a day-to-day basis. And I want to make it very clear that this isn't a problem, I like dedicated women. I also need space to work.

But there are a few issues.

She is always really busy, every 3 weeks she gets a bit freer for about two weeks and then we barely talk again. We text and call each other almost every night, which is great, but the problem is the lack of face-to-face contact.

Despite dating for 6 months, she has never come to sleep over at my place. We've tried to plan it 5 times and something always comes up, some unforeseen event, some complication. I know complications happen, but I'm starting to get hurt. I'm a person who needs an in-person relationship, that's very important to me.

There are other points too, that I need to mention:

1. She has never slept in the same bed with a boyfriend before (I don't need to go into details why, that's not the problem). The problem is that I know this is complicated for her and sometimes I feel like she isn't being honest, or maybe her subconscious is doing it, I don't know, it just bothers me to think she isn't being honest.
2. I used to be friends with her ex (long story, don't ask) and when they broke up about 3 years ago, he mentioned to me that she was kind of absent. I ended up ending the friendship with the guy because he acted like a jerk, and some time later, something started happening with my current girlfriend. I asked her what happened that made her so absent back then, and she said the relationship was actually terrible and that he did things that made her very uncomfortable, hence the distance. I thought it would be different with me, but I'm feeling like I'm in the same boat.
3. Not to brag, but I make good money, I give her lots of gifts (plushies, flowers, chocolates, outings, etc...). She lives in another city and when she can, I take my car and go there. This weekend, in theory, we agreed she would sleep at my place because it's my sister's birthday. I'm afraid she'll flake for the 6th time, whatever the reason. Except she has a theater performance on Sunday that she's rehearsing for; in theory she would spend the whole weekend with us, but it's already changed to just Saturday to Sunday, with me driving her to the performance (which is in another city). I don't mind, but if she bails on Saturday I'll be a little annoyed... does she expect me to spend 200 reais on gas to drive for hours to watch her rehearse when she can't even come here to spend a night with me? She also wants gifts, luxurious things that, thank God, I can afford, but I also don't think this asymmetry is very cool.

The problem is that I also don't want to be the kind of person who gets in the way of their girlfriend's professional life, and I feel like she really does like spending time with me when we manage to go out. According to her, this whole situation is temporary; in July she goes on vacation and it gets easier. I really like her, like, I love talking on the phone, I love spending time with her. But at the same time, I'm tired of this lack of presence... I don't know if I could demand more, because I really don't want to sound like "It's me or your job" because that would be absurd, but I want more presence.

If she flakes this Saturday it will be the sixth time this has happened and I'm going to be really upset.