Am I wrong for not wanting my girlfriend to tell her best friend every detail of our relationship?
My girlfriend and I have been together a little over three years. She has a best friend she's known since college, and I've never had an issue with them being close.
What does bother me is that apparently nothing between us stays between us.
If we argue, he gets the full recap. What I said, what she said, what started it, what I was upset about, what she thinks I "really meant." He's heard about disagreements over sex, family stuff, things I've admitted when I was upset, even conversations I assumed were obviously private.
I only realized how much he knew because a few weeks ago he made a joke about something I'd said during an argument at home. It was bizarre hearing my own words come back through someone who wasn't even there.
I told her I don't mind her occasionally asking a friend for advice. I do that too. But I think there's a difference between "we're struggling with this, what do you think?" and basically giving someone an episode recap of our relationship every time something happens.
She says he's her closest friend and talking to him is how she processes things. She also thinks I'm trying to control who she can talk to.
I'm not asking her to never mention me. I just don't like feeling like there's a third person who knows the private version of our relationship almost as well as we do.
Am I wrong for thinking some things should stay between the two people actually in the relationship?