I’ve been in an asexual relationship for three and a half years. Until now, I’ve been using the Ally flag, but it doesn't represent:
🖤 The fact that my relationship breaks heteronormative norms.
🩶 The unique place that asexuality has taken in my life.
🤍 The fact that I can also be a victim of acephobia.
So, I created a flag to represent asexual relationships. Because after all, these are queer relationships, and flags for queerplatonic relationships already exist.
I used the ace flag as a base for clarity. I added the heart from the queerplatonic relationship flag so people understand this flag is about a relationship. Therefore, the heart represents asexual relationships.
It is pale pink because it’s the same pink used on the asexual spectrum flag. On the a-spec flag, this color represents "diversity in experiences and attractions." I’m using it in a very broad sense so that this color represents the full diversity of asexual relationships:
💜Anywhere on the asexual spectrum.
💚 On the aromantic spectrum or not.
🖤 Polyamorous or not.
🩶 Of any sexual and romantic orientation.
🤍 Queerplatonic or otherwise.
As a mirror to this, I also made a flag for aromantic relationships. However, since I am neither in an aromantic relationship nor on the aromantic spectrum, if someone from the community wants to modify it or create a completely different one, please feel free!
For me, LGBTQIA+ flags are both a part of queer culture and a tool in the fight for our visibility. Making the LGBTQIA+ community increasingly visible normalizes our presence in society and therefore helps reduce queerphobia.