Romantic Partnership: do you prefer INTPs or INFPs?
I’m an ENFJ 6w7 woman, and I have 2 close male friends who are INTP and INFP.
I find it insightful to study how cognitive functions affect relationships. All commenters on this post are welcome!
The three of us do activities together like games, book club, and mutual creative hobbies. Our conversations last hours.
I get along intellectually with INTP; we share more hobbies, humor, and banter. I laugh easily with INTP. He’s a bit clumsy with inferior Fe though, and can hurt my feelings, but if I bring it up he’s good about apologizing sincerely and urging me to let him know if it happens again.
The INFP and I go deeper emotionally, but don’t always connect chemistry-wise or intellectually. Our Fi and Fe clash sometimes as well. He’s also idealized me/downplays parts of me that he “disagrees” with, and is overall a bit limerant. I’m sure this has to do with maturity/level of mental health rather than just Mbti.
INTP is a bit more grounded.
If anyone has had experiences with xNxP men, please share! I’m curious if anyone prefers the INTP like me, even though the INFP is seen as the golden pair.
I have a working theory that romantic ENFJ x INFP works best when the ENFJ is the masculine, but doesn’t work as well when the ENFJ is the feminine. For now, INFP is more of a friend vibe