I am done with her
I 31F just realized that I actually dislike my mother. I live 8 hours away from her for the past decade, not once did she bother visit my son and I, but she has no issues driving 12 hours to visit my sibling.
We never had a really loving relationship as she was a teen mom and I was living with my grandmother for a chunk of my childhood while my mother was completing college and grad school.
My biological father was never in the picture never met me whatsoever, which definitely left a pretty significant impact in my life. I never questioned her about the suggest as she tended to turn violent and unreasonable when said subject was approached.
Fast forward this year, she casually dropped in a conversation that my bio father reached out to her when I was about 2 yrs old, and she denied him access to me because in her own words "He only asked because he heard about your dad". By "dad" she refers to my step dad she met after him who she married and had other kids with. my step dad l is a narc and made my life miserable by telling me to go find my real dad among many other things.
But today really broke me. I came to visit for my youngest sibling graduation. While there, her dog kept on chasing and jumping my son. Then the dog bite my son in the back hard. Broke a bit of skin. She didn’t even bother checking on my son and went to drop off my younger sibling off like nothing happened.
I dont know why, but this ultimately made me lose any once of respect that i had for her. I shortening my trip and plan on stopping all communication with her.