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I went to camp with my coworkers

I work in tech in a predominantly white company……Painfully white company. I am seriously the only black person in my office location, with a handful of other POC.

I can do the office talk for eight hours, three days a week (work from home 2 days a week). However I realize we truly have nothing in common as I had to spend my whole weekend/ free time with them as I have to be back Monday at 8 am. (I don’t know ANY classic rock songs and I am NOT good at trivia)

This trip honestly made me feel really insecure:

  1. I see all of them getting along so well. They also brought their partners. I am post four months a major friendship falling out, that I am embarrassingly still recovering from and has left me very lonely. Im going through a period where i feel like i don’t really get along with people right now and I’m unloveable. This experience put it on TEN.

  2. The trivia night. Again I don’t know all of these random white people facts. In fact I realize I only take in black music, black movies, black culture in general. Am I doing myself a disservice? I’ve never watched the movie Armageddon. I felt really stupid.

  3. The entire experience made me realize the depth of lack of diversity in the office. I live in a majority black city…… but yet I am the only black person in the office. I knew there was systematic racism……. But this whole experience highlighted it even more. Like yall it was an ALL WHITE PARTY….. you truly HAVE TO WORK AT BEING a super majority in my city.

As a side rant….. they never hire any of my recommendations. In fact, they would rather not fill a role than to hire another black person at all. Not in my direct office but as a field tech they just hired a black man…. And they told him he almost didn’t get it because he didn’t go to a tier 1 school….. no one else has gone to a tier one school.

I really don’t know what to do with all of this, not being able to relate culturally, being the only one, systemic racism. I don’t wanna go to work today but I will.

I don’t know that I am asking. Apart of me is ranting, apart of me is asking how should I move going forward.

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u/Soshe_says — 3 days ago
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Christian Obumseli case (I don't have the energy to be outraged)

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I woke up today hearing about this case. And after reviewing all the negative things this man has said about black women over the years, I don't have room to be outraged on behalf of his case. These type of self-hating men (who are ALWAYS busted looking) often run to women like this and they bond over their mutual dislike of black women. But, of course, jokes on him, because she doesn't like him either and something like this happens. The worst part is if he survived it, he would be looking to black women for support.

Other sources go on to say that overall the relationship was toxic and both parties had issues (no kidding). I believe it, but it still stems from a relationship based on the worst intentions. Honestly while I have nothing against interracial relationships and actually find many of them beautiful, if I find out that they are based on self-hate, I'm not stepping up for anyone. People are outraged that this woman was laughing and making silly faces in court. I don't care. This is not surprising. I'm leaving this one to God because I'm not advocating for anyone. It's like asking me to unbury someone who buried themselves alive. All I have to say is "I'm tired grandpa." Sorrows and prayers for his mom and his family and that's it.

u/Majestic_Royal313 — 10 days ago
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These braids are hella tight and are making my scalp red and burn and itch. HELP‼️

I think I should just take these bitches out😂I’ve only had them for like a week😢they were just so tight:(

u/Realistic_Team_4767 — 9 days ago
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Short hair + Do I look like Teyana Taylor

The last 2 photos are Teyana Taylor- my friends think I look like her but I don’t see it.

u/Embarrassed_Video534 — 14 days ago