Mom: “Repeat after me: I am a beautiful Nubian princess.”
3 yo Me: “I am a beautiful Nubian princess.”
Mom: “I have beautiful dark brown skin.”
3 yo Me: “I have beautiful dark brown skin.”
Hello. I am a monotheistic Goddess-worshiping Gynarchist. I am also a neuro-atypical male. I am one of the creators of this pamphlet explaining our view of Gynarchism:
https://www.reddit.com/r/newage1/comments/1woojeq/the_gynarchy_pamphlet/
I have been trying to visit to communities who I feel need this information most. One of those communities was the tradwives community, a community I suspect comprises mostly of conservative white Women. I was the recipient of such unkindness, they insulted my pamphlet, and they called me asinine.
I know in general, Women of color value independency and Female empowerment much more so than white Women. So I'd very much like to hear your thoughts on Gynarchism as an alternative path for humanity.
Thank you.
I genuinely need some outside perspective on this, so please be honest with me.
I have a job interview Friday for a position that would be a really good opportunity for me. The pay is great, and after dealing with a lot of rejection lately, I really need a breakthrough.
Here’s where I’m struggling: the woman interviewing me is a younger Black woman—probably at least 10 years younger than me. From what I can tell, she seems smart, beautiful, successful, married, etc. I’m also a Black woman.
In the past, I’ve had some really negative experiences with other Black women in professional settings, particularly supervisors and interviewers. Some of those experiences felt competitive or unnecessarily hostile, and whether my interpretation was completely accurate or not, those experiences have clearly stuck with me.
Now I’m catching myself wanting to cancel this interview before I’ve even met this woman because I’m expecting the same dynamic to happen again.
Part of me knows that isn’t fair to her. She hasn’t done anything to me, and she could be completely different from the people I dealt with before. At the same time, after getting rejected so much lately, I’m tired of putting myself through interviews, getting excited, and then being disappointed.
Would I be completely sabotaging myself by canceling?
I’m especially interested in hearing from other Black women who have dealt with difficult workplace dynamics and figured out how to stop carrying those experiences into new opportunities.
The job pays really well, and I need a win right now. I feel like I should just go to the interview, be confident, give her a fair chance, and let whatever happens happen.
What would you do?
I’ve primarily used Hinge because several of my friends have had success there. However, I noticed I was getting very few likes or matches despite considering myself attractive and having a solid profile.
A friend mentioned a social media post suggesting that Black women change their race on Hinge to see if it affects their experience. I tried changing mine from African American to non-Black, and almost immediately noticed a different pool of men more professionals and generally men I was more interested in. I changed it back to African American, and the difference was noticeable.
I even switched profiles with a non-Black friend. She was getting tons of likes while I received very few, and she commented that the men appearing on my profile seemed noticeably different from what she was seeing.
I eventually tried Bumble with essentially the same profile, and the difference was pretty shocking: 50+ likes and 4 matches in less than 24 hours.
I know dating apps vary, and I’m not expecting to be everyone’s type, but the difference has made me wonder how much racial bias plays into what Black women are shown and how often our profiles are shown.
Has anyone else experienced something similar, particularly on Hinge? I’d love to hear your experiences or advice.