My husband and I have talked a few years about being a throuple. Recently I met a woman who is mesmerizing. Typically (and maybe this is the part I should have known better ) I need a lot of control over things when we have a person we are talking to. (I really hate feeling like the problem)
Anyways. It was really new - like 2 weeks. We met her for a dinner on a Wednesday. Then she spent the weekend w me. Then the plan was for him to go spend the day at her house helping her w things (she just moved into her house )
And to stay the night. He had work the next evening.
But unfortunately I flipped the fuck out.
I didn’t tell him to come home in the evening. I was trying to not be a hypocrite. I also felt like he would not be happy if I denied him that time.
I was not clear but I also felt like I was asking and mentioning options. But I’d back out.
So now it’s rough bc the feelings I had (I think also triggered their rejection feelings) and I was blamed
(Maybe not the intention ) but very much was a “well you said I/he could”
Anyways. What can I do to help me ? I don’t know if I should ever try that again. But if I ever did I would need to be healed.