Help with frustration?? Any tips please.
Hi everyone.
SAHM to my 3.5 mo and my 21 mo.
i am feeling AWFUL and crying because i was super overwhelmed today. I feel like such an awful mom to my oldest. I snapped at him, made him fall.
my oldest son refused his nap today. Just playing or screaming bloody murder. He has never been a good sleeper or napper. He always fights or just plays but eventually settles but he takes forever. Naps are usually when I can get stuff done or just relax for a minute. My youngest sleeps rreally well and usually naps at the same timr as brother.
toddler drew on the wall today when I wasn’t looking. i tell him that’s not ok, take the crayons. We rent. i started cleaning it up and I kept telling him to please scoot and go somewhere else to play and moving him but he kept trying to wedge his way in between me and the wall. Eventually I snapped at him and (not aggressively) but a little more forceful than necessary shoved him with my elbow and he fell onto the boppy under him and said ow. I was frustrated still so I kept scrubbing the wall. Then stopped and comforted him and apologized.
he is a picky eater and does not want to eat anything I make him. I made dinner yesterday and offered it, said ew yucky and refused. Gave him nuggets. Nope. Quesadilla. Nope. He starts eating crumbs off of the floor . I snap at him to stop. Im frustrated he won’t eat anything I make him but he thinks dirty crumbs on the floor are gourmet.
my toddler looooves our newborn, is always kissing and loving on him but it gets a little scary because he will get ontop of him so i have to watch him like a hawk. Normally he’s ok and is gentle with his little brother but sometimes he will basically lay right on top of him. And today I kept snapping at him to stop.
i love both of my kids so much. I’m frustrated with myself for not being a better mother and snapping at my son and causing him to fall. I love them more than anything and I feel so much guilt for treating him this way.
does anyone gave any tips on managing the frustration?
other days are ok and it’s not too bad but on days like today where he skips his nap and it’s hard to get chores done I get so upset. he drew on the wall, kept laying on his brother, throwing tantrums left and right, not eating anything, I feel so overwhelmed and guilty and awful.