(First time poster)
Recently, my wife (48yo) said during a night we were both pretty inebriated that she thought my guy was small.
Let me set this up, we have 2 kids, house, she is a good wife. Honestly. And this shocked me. 14 years married and this has never come up. (We have alot of sex, and I usually feel wanted and desired)
What shocked me most, (Im saying this strictly for transparency for real feedback), my guy is about 7 inches erect. I have great hygiene , I am a very sexual guy. Honestly I considered my penis average at the least, it isnt small, at least to me. Maybe im being delusional.
I spent the next couple months confused, and she feels bad that she ever said it it all. It never crossed my mind, but its something she was holding in.
I am an engineer, im attractive, very fit, we live well, and I cant find it in me to move past this, not as an insecurity, but as feeling like she deserves to be married to someone that she feels is large, thats what she wants. Which is fine, seriously. Im more stumped at the fact she thinks mine is small and thats not something I can get over.
(P.S , Im not angry, I dont hate her, but I know im not the settling type, and im considering leaving)