How to regain trust after no use of safeword?
My partner (M26) and I (27F) have a good relationship everything that could be going right is except for the bedroom. When we first started dating a year and a bit ago it was his first relationship and first time doing the horizontal tango. He was submissive and so I took the lead with most things while he learned more about what he liked (although we kept it pretty vanilla). One day he didn't use the safe word when he felt uncomfortable while we were experimenting with a new thing. I know we are both chronic people pleasers so I wasn't mad but I told him I can't have him be in a submissive role anymore. It felt way too dangerous and hurt our relationship. We now have me in a more submissive role and him in a dominant role although I seem to still top from the bottom telling him what I want and what to do. It's only today he told me that he wanted to be in the sub role again (Has not told me what type of Domme he is wanting or what that looks like for him) but I still feel I can't trust him. He never did any homework or looked up anything we could do to experiment nor has he told me what he wants or needs instead I get an I don't know and that's that. I'm rough and aggressive and he is more soft and peaceful. I'm at the part in the relationship where I am worried that maybe we aren't a great fit. We spoke today to try and sort it out he said he wants to learn and do things and he is hoping the talk helps him push his comfort. I just... I want to make him happy too but I'm scared that he won't ever use his safeword and I'll feel like a downright monster for it. Is there any way we can salvage the trust if so I'm unsure how. It's a big thing that I can't really ignore.