u/Klaurofeel

Bonjour, je (F35) a toujours eu un regard très critique sur mon corps (trop grosse, pas assez sportive ect). J'ai perdu beaucoup de poids il y a quelques années et je me suis mise au sport (pas par contrainte mais avec plaisir pour la première fois de ma vie). J'ai évidemment repris tout mon poids (parce que les rééquilibrages alimentaires/regime ca marche pas) mais je continue le sport. Je me sens de nouveau super mal dans ma peau et ça me soule parce que je sais que je suis en bonne santé et que j'ai ce regard sur mon corps à cause des canons de beauté et que même avec 15 kg de moins je ne me trouvais pas belle non plus ... Mais je n'arrive pas à m'accepter.

Bref désolé pour ce racontage de vie mais est ce que vous arrivez a vous détacher de toute cette culture de la minceur/corps parfait et fit et a vous accepter ? Si oui est ce qu'il y a quelque chose qui vous a fait un déclic ?

Je précise que je ne vis pas de grossophobie au quotidien et que pour la société je ne suis pas grosse (pas mince non plus). Et ça me fait d' autant plus culpabiliser de me sentir comme ça parce que j'ai l'impression d'être ultra illégitime à me sentir mal dans ma peau.

(J'étais pas sûre de quel flair mettre si c'est pas ok je suis désolée)

I have a mal mix and I learn a lot of things about mal and jobs on this sub. One thing I would like to teach my dog is to help me put away the laundry (she is obsessed with socks and I think it would be a good outlet for her). She knows drop it and take it. I don't really know where to go from there, if you have any tips that would be great !

My dog is 16 months and she is a shepherd mix with a smaller dog breed (she looks like a mini malinois). She is not reactive in general to people or dogs but she has some triggers, the main one being people that will call her or make kisses noise with their mouth.

I live in a big city and we see a lot of people everyday and things are fine with nearly all of them but once in a while someone will act in a "weird way" by calling her or just by looking at her a bit too much while being static, and she will bark at them and lose her cool.

I had 2 encounters recently and I didn't handle them the same way but in both cases I feel like I could have done better and I want to have advice on how I should react :

1st event : she was a bit stressed because a big dig barked at her and a woman put her hand in her face and so just after a man was there all static and looking at her and she started barking. So I was trying to move while calming her down and this guy crouched down and started petting her and she even licked is face. I was too shocked to react because who in is right mind will put is face in front of a dog that's yelling at them. Anyway I let them do their thing, my dog could have come back to me anytime and she seemed to be enjoying herself (she loves people in general and is all bark and no teeth). But when the man rose up again she resumed barking at him.

2nd event : we were sitting in the grass, she was playing with a stick and a man approached us and started making kissy noise. I told him to stop twice and she started barking. I rose up and put myself between him and my dog and asked him a bit more loudly to stop and leave us alone. The guy started saying that I was crazy that I knew dogs and so on. In the meantime my dog has calmed down and my BF had moved a bit away with her. I asked the guy repeatedly to leave but he wouldn't so we left.

So in the first encounter I did nothing but things didn't really escalate but I feel like I didn't stand up for her and in the second I stood up for her but I got really angry at that guy and I don't know if it is a good way to handle things either ...

Sorry for the really long post I hope it is understandable and appropriate for this sub (English is not my first language).