u/Kooky-Celebration-22

I have ROCD and have been doing well with a newer relationship (4 months). I noticed when I was engaging in compulsions previously and took a step back and started practicing exposures. My trigger is his ex. They share two dogs together. He’s basically the sole caretaker for them but since he’s an Emergency Room doctor and at times works multiple day shifts that are around the clock, she takes the dogs in. The ex is using HIS SUV because apparently the dogs don’t fit in her car if she would need to take them somewhere. He says he doesn’t mind because she’s doing him the favor of watching the dogs while he has the long shifts. They’ve been broken up for almost two years. She never bothers to ask how the dogs are doing, take them to the vet, bathe them etc he does and pays for everything. They don’t have a friendly relationship, it’s very surface level. We are going on a vacation to Europe for a couple of weeks and I’ve asked him if he’s spoken to her about being available those days. He keeps putting it off because he has to also talk to her and tell her about me essentially that he’s now in a relationship and he says it’s going to be a tough conversation. The week he was going to do it, she lost her job and he said he doesn’t want to make things worse with his news. This woman is all over his Facebook pictures. We are nearing our departure date and today I asked him about it and he said she had something happen in her family so it would be tough talking to her. At this point now I’m getting frustrated because I’m unsure what the big deal is about him having to share he’s in a relationship when they’ve been broken up. My fear is that he still cares for her and can’t let go of the idea of them being a family (with their two dogs). He’s great with me and our relationship has been really good so it’s confusing. I don’t know if this is ROCD coming up for me or if it’s a valid concern. I haven’t brought it up because if it’s ROCD, I don’t want it to be me seeking reassurance. Thoughts?

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