I lied to my friend and now I know that certain pants are just for women
So recently I (Male 22) have moved away from my hometown for college in a bigger city and my friend (Female 21 let's call her Jenna)'s first goal was always to get me nicer clothes at a much better store and find my style. (Also this is a throwaway account just cause my friends know my regular reddit and I'm just not ready to tell them)
Well we went to this one store that makes really nice products but I wasn't really feeling it. I have a specific issue with certain clothes, mainly shirts, due to texture and slightly due to body image. I'm overall fine but just for context I cannot stand super smooth shirts that fit very loose and free, which I can tell by feeling and most of these shirts were that.
Jenna doesn't really get it but just knows I'm particular and we were there for three of us so it's fine, just at some point when we get to the second floor she's like "You need new pants right?" and I'm like yeah I only have like 3 pairs so we go looking around and I just don't really like what they have and dont really wanna try any on. Honestly at this point in the trip I was reserved to not buying anything. I dont really know how it happened but the sizes were confusing me and she was like "Just get a large just get these" and she handed me some and they were women's pants. They felt nice and I had no reservations on wearing womens clothes if they felt nice but i was still hesitant like what if someone can tell and they say something about it? None of that mattered, I ended up buying them and wearing them regularly with my others.
Fast forward to winter break when I returned home and my mom seemed to have issues with these pants. She didn't really say anything blatant but just any time I would wear them she'd ask if there were any others I could wear to outings and I shrugged and complied.
Upon returning to the big city for the next semester I feel like that thing with my mom was instilled in my mind and I wore them less and less..... it was then about a month ago when I was sorting through clothes to pack or donate that I put them on again to go out.... and something just felt off? It was like I just barely noticed how the hips are framed or the gap between the legs, and most importantly it was no longer comfortable around the crotch. idk HOW this barely hit me? maybe a change in weight or something or my mom's words skewing me in a certain direction but I was suddenly hyper aware that these are pants I don't like wearing.... I hate how they make my legs look and its really awkward to "position" my self in that area. Idk if all women's pants are like this or not but I know the issue with these is that they're just not built for me. It's just crazy to me how before I had 4 perfectly fine pairs of pants and now I have 3 fine pairs of pants and one evil insidious garment.
SO why did I still pack them and not donate them?..... me and my friends have been talking over the past year and how we've all learned so much about each other and grown and become closer and helped each other and Jenna commented "yeah I got you those pants you love!" and I just said "yeah.". So here I am, across the country back home for summer break with pants I felt obligated to bring but will never wear and that Jenna will also never know if I'm wearing or not. Will they follow me back to the big city for the new school year? Only time will tell my friends. Stay safe out there.