Keeping it Secret from the Grandparents
My spouse announced at the beginning of this year that they would like to transition. At first i was one of the first people to now she would be transitioning MtF, then she told some friends, and
then some people at work. I support whatever pace she would like to go at, and think its wonderful that she is feeling content enough to open up to people.
The problem we are having is she would like to tell our 9 year old child by Christmas. But have our child keep this secret from the grandparents (my spouses parents). My opinion is that the adults should know, so little ones don’t have to feel the weightof keeping secrets and protecting their parent and processing life changing news.
My spouse seemed disappointed that i didn’t love their plan, and that i asked her to check with their therapist before setting anything in motion. Does anyone have experience with this? I don’t want her to feel like i am forcing her to disclose to potentially unsupportive people, but I want to care for our son’s mental health the best way possible. Helps please? 💜