People comparing HG to morning sickness and judging
Hi,
I’m pretty upset by something my nan said, but a few other people have said variations of something similar just not as bad. Am I overreacting?
For context I have really bad HG and was admitted to hospital for 5 days to try and stop the vomiting (I was still frequently vomiting on IV anti sickness for 4 of those days). It was affecting my blood tests, caused bowel blockage, and also I was severely dehydrated. I’m on Ondansetron and Cyclizine now, with Metoclopromide I can add as and when needed. It honestly wipes me out. My GP doesn’t like prescribing that much anti sickness but the hospital have said it is necessary.
So I’m visiting my grandparents and I went in to the lounge after being sick, and sat on the sofa. I tried to make an effort to get out of bed despite being in a vomiting cycle and feeing very weak.
My Nan says “oh you’re finally up at midday then”. I had been up since 6am, vomiting. I just chose to do it in private and not on her carpet.
My Nan then says “you’re lucky, me and your mum were just as sick AND had to work. We weren’t signed off work with a bit of morning sickness in our day”
And “we didn’t have all this anti sickness in our day. We had to just get on with it”.
I asked my mum who said my nan DIDNT work during her pregnancy, she was a literal teenager, and yes my mum worked during her pregnancy but she said she had regular morning sickness.
My nan also made a comment saying I was starving the baby after I only had 4 bites of dinner. I had a few more bites a few hours later. She said it’s horrible because it will be cold and old and I should eat it now, but it’s the best I can do.
I still can’t eat properly, I’m still losing weight despite the anti sickness. I’m still being sick, just less sick despite anti sickness. My HOPE score says severe HG despite all the anti sickness.
I’m worried the baby isn’t getting the nutrients they need, I’m worried I’m giving the baby cleft lip/palette from the ondansetron. Im worried I’ll end up back in hospital. I’m worried I’ll end up on a feeding tube. I’m fighting my body to keep small bits of food and anti sickness down.
I’m struggling to get through each day. It hurts when people compare it to regular morning sickness when I’m literally struggling to eat little bits and stop my body shutting down. 😭 I never said anything to my nan, but a day later her comment is still upsetting me.
My mum and my partner who are supporting me during this time understand it, so I’m very thankful for that. They witness how bad it is and have explained to my nan how bad it is, but it falls on deaf ears.