r/HyperemesisGravidarum

I need help. Im pregnant with my 3rd. It was an accident but I want this kid, they are a miracle. I can barely move because of how constant the nausea and overheat is on my body. I live in a 900 sq ft house and have to watch my 21 month old 22 hours a day. I usually have to sleep with her (not as big of a problem just never getting a break). My husband takes her for a few hours when he gets home from work. I can barely move, can barely eat, I can't swallow the tons of pills I take because I throw them up. Ive been off of my high dose ssri for 4 days now and i just want to fucking d1e guys. Im feeling suicidal. Haven't planned anything. But now my brain is bringing up every awful thing I ever did (I cheated on my first boyfriend, like 20 years ago) just now I thought about how much of a monster I was and that i must still be that monster and got myself so upset I threw up. My 21 month old is crawling all over me, doesn't understand what puking is and tries to get between me and the toilet/bucket. Rationally i know she is scared but it makes me so angry that she won't just let me puke without crawling all over me. I'm not okay. I don't feel like i have anyone to turn to. Please help me.

P.s. I'm on Zofran because it dissolves in my mouth so I don't gag but its really not helping. My dr is giving me another med that you have to put up you butt. Good god I fucking hate how much of a mess I am

FTM here, currently 15.5 weeks. Ended up in the ER last week for dehydration because I wasn’t keeping food, water or meds down. Now on Unisom + B6 + Zofran + Omeprazole. OB said they’re now “monitoring” me for HG.

Can’t shake the feeling that getting a diagnosis here is kind of tricky. Like, at what point do they know for sure it’s HG and not just severe morning sickness? Is it a matter of time, or specific symptoms? Am I supposed to stop taking meds for a day and see what happens?

Sorry if this all seems obvious to everyone here but I’m feeling very anxious and alone. And my OB is not super high-touch or personalized in their care which makes it all feel very scary as a first timer anyway. Appreciate all the perspective from this group 💗

I had HG with my first child, she is currently 5 months and perfect! I really wanted 2 under 2 but now I’m debating it because i don’t know how I could possibly take care of a 10 month old - 14 month old while having HG….

tell me your experience… did you have HG again or not? was it worse or better?

Hello 👋 I am 13w3d and my doctor finally prescribed me a prednisone taper but it’s not working 😢😭 I’m on day five with no improvement and I was so happy bc of all the positive comments I seen about it. I have my appointment next week and planning on asking for Remeron but not feeling very confident with that either… I also still take Zofran, Promethazine, Omeperezole and Pepcid. I also get fluid and banana bags every Monday and Thursdays. My birthday 30th is on September 3rd and I want even be able to eat 😔

TW: discussion of traumatic birth and infertility

My daughter is almost 2 now, for reference, and I had HG the entire pregnancy (threw up from 6 weeks to the day I delivered her). I have a lot of ptsd from it, for many reasons (not just the HG, we almost got evicted multiple times because I had to quit my job due to HG, was dealing with multiple family issues, chronic pain, developed gestational diabetes despite being unable to eat, and then had a very unwanted c section after a failed 3 day induction, etc), so we will not even consider the idea of having a second until she’s in elementary school. Just the idea of pregnancy makes me nauseous, and I have residual psychological nausea (ptsd).

Despite this, I’m just so sad seeing the other moms in her class pregnant. Not just pregnant, but pregnant and FUNCTIONING. Being a mom is literally all I’ve ever wanted in life, and my daughter is genuinely a unicorn baby. She’s my rainbow baby after 2 years of infertility, and she’s actually the easiest baby I’ve ever met. I was a nanny for close to a decade before having her, so I don’t say that as a mom blinded by love, I say that seriously. She started sleeping through the night at 3 months old. She rarely cries. She almost NEVER wakes up before 9:30 in the morning. And she’s so social and happy.

She’s such a joy, and I feel so sad that I may never give her a sibling. Given my history of infertility at a young age, I know that it’s possible that I genuinely won’t be able to get pregnant again. Seeing other pregnant women living like normal human beings makes me want to cry because I am just so jealous. I am absolutely beyond attached to my daughter now, but because of how pregnancy was, plus having a c section (I had imagined her birth a million times, but I had never imagined I’d be having a massive panic attack and have to have so much anxiety medicine I was barely conscious when she was born), I didn’t feel a connection to her when she was first born. I was in so much pain for the first 2 weeks that I feel like I missed out on so much.

It feels so unfair. I’m in therapy (have been for many years), but it still just hurts. It feels like my body failed me in so many ways, and I want so badly to WANT to be pregnant again, but I legitimately could not stop gagging at the THOUGHT of pregnancy. I know some of this is just me being irrational, but I feel like HG stole something from me, something I wanted so badly, and I just wish I could be one of those people who just forgets all the bad parts of pregnancy.

A 12 weeks HG FTM here. Besides vomiting 10+ time every day despite nausea meds , terrible migraines everyday, I woke up with worst constipation today I rushed to toilet and my stool got impacted in my rectum. I tried so much to pass it but couldn’t. I thought I am about to start bleeding from rectum because everything became so dark for a while. I was in so much pain, felt like someone stabbing and cutting my rectum. My whole life flashed before me. I thought this is the end. Sorry, TMI but I tried to manually extract it ( was partially successful) while asking my husband to rush and get me glycerin suppository and laxative from pharmacy.
After suppository and oral laxative , finally passed the stool after 3 hours. And now my rectum hurts a bit too much. I don’t know how I am going to survive the next 28weeks with such debilitating symptoms everyday 😭😭😭

I am just so mad at everyone who’s like “yeah I’ve felt pretty good so far!” F you, lady. You look radiant. Meanwhile, I have a black eye from burst blood vessels from puking, bruises all over my arms from IVs, and I’m developing a hunch back since all my core strength is gone. What if we could just be like them 😭

I’ve been feeling full all day to the point where it feels like I need to throw up. But it wouldn’t come up. As soon as I lay down and start to doze off, I feel the urge to vomit so I grabbed a bag off of my nightstand and started throwing up immediately. I felt myself tinkle just a little bit so I get up and rush to the bathroom, all while still throwing up in the bag. Once I sit on the toilet barely anything comes out. I looked on the floor to see that I left a trail of urine from my bedroom to the bathroom 🤣🤷🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ so glad I don’t have carpet lol.

Hello! I am 11 weeks with my second HG pregnancy. I see a lot of people on here taking zofran, which helped me my first pregnancy. My doctor truly does not seem to care about my HG. She said I cannot take zofran and only offers me promethazine, but I have a 2.5 year old that I need to keep up with 😅 so if I’m not vomiting, I’m drowsy. I’m absolutely miserable and can hardly get out of bed. I’ve needed IV fluids about twice a week in clinic. I feel like zofran must be safer than not eating at all?

Help! Currently 10 weeks pregnant and have been to the ER 3 times for awful HG symptoms. I’m on 8mg zofran and 25mg promethazine. I’ve also been given Reglan but I don’t think it’s as effective as the zofran. I am so severely constipated it has landed me in the ER twice and I have tried almost everything (enemas, suppositories, miralax, milk of magnesia, and magnesium citrate.) The enemas and suppositories barely do anything and I throw up miralax and mag cit everytime. I handled 45mg of milk of magnesia for a few days and it helped me pass a movement the following day but now I just throw it up. I’m taking stool softeners each night and I’m almost done with my second bottle. The doctor wants to start me on IV fluids and meds a few times a week but I have to wait for it to be cleared with insurance.

I AM LOSING MY MIND with how sick I feel. If I skip the zofran I will absolutely be puking my guts up. Even with the zofran I’m still nauseous and only able to tolerate maybe 20oz of water being sipped all day. I’ve tried Gatorade and all the other drinks. I’m also not able to eat hardly at all. I’m trying to back away from the zofran and try the Reglan more it just depends on if I can keep anything down with the Reglan.

I have no clue how women have endured this before because it is driving me crazy. What helped you have bowel movements/eat/drink?

Any advice is much appreciated 🙏🏽

This is the first post of a series that I plan to share in regards to taking Metformin as a preventative drug for HG. I plan to share my experience as it unfolds in the hope that it may be useful to someone. I remember how hard it was to have hg and to feel so alone. I'm so grateful for this reddit group.

For context, I am 35, mother of one who I had in October of 2023. I had what I would describe as 'dry' HG where I vomited around 6 times a day throughout the first and half of the second trimester. The nausea I had was debilitating, I became bedridden, and lost around 10 pounds (already quite a small person so it was a lot for me). My husband temporarily quit his job to take care of me full time and I believe this saved my life as my dehydration and severe anemia were making it difficult to even function. I'm sure many here can relate. I live in Spain and was using the public health care system which would only prescribe something called Cariban, or low dose antihistamine. Needless to say, I felt it did nothing to lessen the symptoms of HG. I did not know of the HER foundation or any of the drugs commonly prescribed by health care providers for HG.

Fast forward to now, having been an active member of this group and reading through all the exciting findings around hg and possible mitigation strategies, I'm ready to start thinking about baby 2.

I had my first appointment with my general doctor here in the Spanish public system yesterday. I had the study for metformin translated into Spanish just in case it was necessary (it wasn't) and I explained the possible advancements in this area and that I wanted a referral to an OBGYN in order to get a prescription for metformin for 6 months prior to conception. She said it was unlikely that an OB in the public system would prescribe me metformin as the evidence hasn't reached the level required of the public system for this to be standard treatment and that if I don't succeed I should go the private insurance/doctor route which I plan to do if this doesn't succeed.

Anyway, I hope this is helpful. Thank you for your time. Stay tuned for part 2.

Take care 😘

This will be my fourth HG pregnancy. I was actively trying to prevent using condoms and cycle tracking and the condom broke and I ended up pregnant. I was initially devastated as I know the toll that my pregnancy and postpartum takes on me and my family. I will be trying a new form of contraceptives after this, as I never want to do this again and I thought I was done. I am trying to decide if I want an implant or just fully getting my tubes tied. I don't know yet. I am excited to welcome another baby and I will love this baby so much, but it's just unfair that we as HG moms can't enjoy our pregnancies and feel excited. I wish I could see that positive result and be excited instead of fear and devastation. I wish I could take care of my three other children that need me, and not have to have my mom do it for me after she's been at work all day. My husband stays home all day and takes care of everyone, and the works a night shift every night. We are behind on bills because I am unable to work. I even had to push back my first ultrasound because I couldn't pay my insurance and was going to have to self-pay. I literally just lay in my bed all day and feel useless and disgusting. I don't know what I would do if it wasn't for my support system. I feel incredibly guilty and irresponsible that they have to stop their lives to come to my aid for months. I don't know when's the last time I had a normal bodily function. I can't shower on my own. I can't do anything. I fucking hate it and I can't wait for it to be over. I feel like a piece of shit. I just wish I could enjoy a pregnancy for once.

So I’ve had some pretty bad HG throughout my whole pregnancy to the point where I lost substantial amount of weight. Before I got put on the Zofran pump, we tried oral regalan and Zofran and they helped when they could, but weren’t a viable option. OB put me on the Zofran pump and I’ve been on that for the past couple months and that has been working wonders. Well, the company that the Zofran pump is established in is not taking my insurance any longer. I have the rest of the month to have a Zofran pump, but after that, I’ll be discharged from their services and I still have two months left of my pregnancy. Even being on the Zofran pump, it only allowed me to stay at the weight that I was where I wasn’t losing or gaining anything. I’m scared that being off the Zofran pump. I’m gonna continue losing more weight and baby’s not gonna get the nutrients that she needs. Any advice? I have an OB appointment on Friday to do a growth ultrasound and talk next steps, but I feel like they’re just gonna put me back on the oral medication and I don’t know if that will work.

I have HG. I honestly feel like the worst part of it is the guilt of not being able to take care of this pregnancy like I thought I would. Eating healthy - out the window. Drinking water - hardest part of all. A little water makes me feel bad. Having the HG is bad, but the guilt is also bad too. Eating organic, taking care of myself - all gone. I feel like I can’t even leave my house because I feel so bad. Any tips? thanks! I’m an older first time mom after yearssss of IVF fails, got pregnant on my own somehow.

I had hg from 6 weeks to 14 weeks horrendously then still not great but better from 15 to 19 then gone by 21. I've just come back from bali, husband has a chest infection i have a cough and my daughter was up vomiting the day we got back which was 2 days ago.

I am super nauseous, back to week 6-14 bad. I have a cough too but it's not that bad, hoping the nausea is from that and pissible early infection? Or do you think the HG has returned? I can't go back to living like this 😭

Hello! Is anyone else having an awful taste in their mouth due to nausea or ptyalism??

I don't know if everyone with nausea has it or it comes only with ptyalism...My mouth tastes awful (it's not the mouth taste that comes after vomit, it's a different one 😅). Dont really have words to describe it - as if your own saliva / mouth taste makes you nauseous.

Have you found anything that helps you cope with the taste even for a few hours?

Chewing gum makes ptyalism worse for me. Eating helps, but due to HG I cannot eat all the time..

Many thanks in advance!

I had MISERABLE hg when I was pregnant with my daughter- almost died from dehydration and had to be admitted into a hospital for a few days. I just found out I’m pregnant again and I’m terrified. Am i cooked or were any of you able to skip a pregnancy from hg?

Hi all - I posted a few weeks ago in the pregnancy subreddit about having severe nausea without much vomiting. Today when I went into the GP, I explained I was still feeling similar. This GP did a PUQE test which had me land as a ‘severe’ case of pregnancy related sickness.

My GP wanted me to go into hospital - but I asked if there was anything else we could try first because I don’t think I’m dehydrated but I just have really awful nausea and it’s making me dry heave a lot. I vomit maybe 1-2 times a day.

Has anyone else been in this situation? What actually happened in the hospital if you weren’t dehydrated?

I’ve been prescribed Xonvea today so I’m hoping this is going to make the difference as all other medication hasn’t touched this yet.

Hello!

I'm 8 weeks pregnant, on Aug 7th I started experiencing super bad nausea/vomiting, zofran wasn't helping.

My primary doctor prescribed promethazine, I took 2 doses and was still getting sick, unable to eat and a little dizzy, I ended up going to the local ER Aug 12th for fluids and some help for my nausea. They gave me fluids and IV reglan and it helped so much I was able to eat!

The ER nurse also prescribed doxylamine-pyridoxine which I started the next day Aug 13th. I had one good day while on that, then ended up back where I was even with continuing that med, promethazine, and zofran.

Yesterday I was unable to eat at all, I took a few bites of eggs and bacon and instantly felt extremely sick.

Today I woke up dry heaving and eventually puked bile, I tried eating a Popsicle and it came right back up..

My obgyn at first said maybe stomach bug, but now he's replying very short and unconcerned.

My primary doctor just told me today that his wife found that puking and getting it over with rather than trying to take meds is what helped her and suggested crackers...

It's now 11pm and I'm dry heaving and super nauseous which is preventing me from taking my meds...

I have POTS, HEDS, and I previously had chronic gastritis.

My doctors are basically saying this is normal, but I'm already a very small person, I can't be losing weight..

Any advice? Someone that works with my OB said she would talk to him tomorrow for me as he's not really listening to me, she also said go to er if I feel I need to before I hear from her. She also mentioned I may need a Zofran pump, which I'm trying to avoid lol..

Update just seen a different obgyn, I got diagnosed with HG and prescribed reglan 😖🤞🏼

15 Weeks Pregnant, first time with HG.

It starts to wear off about the 5-6 hour for me and then I’m MISERABLE!

I already ended up in the ER once and got IV fluids and my HG diagnosis. I mentioned that the Zofran wasn’t cutting it for long enough, so they told me I could take it earlier than the 8HRs but to only do that for one dose per day.

I end up taking my second dose early to eat dinner but then I’m struggling at night with nausea before bed. :(

This is so hard. Thankful for community! Also I just found out I need to be taking MiraLAX, so I’ll start tomorrow, I’ve been on Zofran generic for 5 days now 😭😭😭😭