u/Labulbo

My younger half brother is a complete waste of oxygen. He has all the negative traits from my mother but with violent tendencies added on top, he will almost certainly end up in prison in the next 5 years. There are many different stories to tell but I'll go with the main one that caused the biggest rift between us.

A few years ago, my pregnant wife and I were asleep in bed when we were awoken by the sound of somebody trying to kick in our front door, not a nice feeling to say the least.

I opened up the Ring doorbell app to see what was going on. It turns out it was my brother, drunk and coked up to his eyeballs, he was trying to kick my front door in for some reason (to this day I genuinely don't know what that reason was) while shouting "I'll kick your fucking head in"

The police arrived very quickly to my surprise and arrested him before I needed to do anything. They must have had a patrol car nearby because when we checked later it was about 2 minutes from making the call, stellar work, ten out of ten.

My mother acted mortified for less than a week and soon pivoted to "you need to make up with your brother" oh do I? I NEED to do I? No.

Despite not liking my mother, I still maintained contact with her against my better judgement. I guess I was stuck in the mindset of "Yeah but she's family after all" (side note, do not fall into this trap)

She didn't come to my son's first birthday last year and never gave a reason, that hurt but I still kept things civil with her. She would still come round to see my son, still talk shit about people, still talk about how everyone else is a "snake" and that she has never done anything wrong, still talking shit about my stepmother (who is a lovely woman and a better mother than she has ever been). I tolerated it all. I even tolerated the occasional time I would see my brother around town and he would give me a dirty look despite the fact that he is in the wrong.

Fast forward again to last week, it was my son's second birthday and we got him baptised at the same time. It was a lovely day with all the family. My mother messaged me a week before saying "Does the invite include (my brother)?"

Absolutely not. I responded with "No, you know how I feel about (brother), the invite is just for you and (stepfather)"

Well that clearly sent her over the edge because she almost instantly replied with "We're not coming then, you are just being petty now, he is your brother. Have a nice day"

I haven't heard from her since and honestly, never felt more relieved. I always had it in my mind that if I cut her off before this I would be a bad son but I've had enough. I'm sure she will be telling all her friends and her side of the family how cruel I am, and how my brother wants to make amends (not true, he has never apologised and as I mentioned above, gives me dirty looks whenever I see him) but I just don't care anymore.

I'm free from her and feel like a massive weight has been lifted off my shoulders. All my life I have put up with her just being a nasty person and then love bombing us to make us forget the things she says and does.

I'm grateful that my son is too young to understand and has other loving grandparents around him, it would break my heart if he started questioning where his grandmother has gone but right now all he cares about is Peppa Pig and his new tricycle haha.

Thanks for reading, I just needed to put this out somewhere.

Funny people.

Hi all, so currently me and my wife live in a house that belonged to her late grandfather. The house is currently in a discretionary trust and will be transferred to her mother and aunt as part of their inheritance. They have agreed to sell it to us for a very good price below the current market value to help us get on the property ladder.

We have enough saved for a mortgage deposit and good salaries with low outgoings so there should be no problem at all when it comes to affordability checks and fees etc.

I have spoken to a local broker and she has flagged that when a change has been made to the land registry, it triggers a "6 month rule" with most lenders where they will not offer a mortgage until that 6 months is up. I wasn't aware of this before. They can legally sell the house whenever they want but it would have to be to cash buyers who don't need a mortgage if that was the case.

The broker has asked that we flag this to her mother's solicitor to get clarification but they're away on holiday for the next few weeks so we won't get a clear answer until they return.

My question is, has anybody dealt with something similar and what was the outcome? I appreciate I don't have all the clear details yet but it would be helpful to read some of the experiences while we wait on further solicitor details.

Thanks in advance.