u/Lady-Rohirrim

So, my Hubbie is a 140lb purple belt who really loves jujutsu. A local gym was was having a a low stakes competition to help with fundraising. I talked him into competing because I thought it would be fun, but it wasn’t.

They did not divide the people up by weight or by belt and the first guy he fought was a 220 pound blue belt who he lost against. He wasn’t too upset about this loss. The no gi fight he went against a 200 pound white belt and lost…he is very discouraged because he doesn’t see the reason in continuing to belt up if weight is the only thing that truly matters in the end.

I didn’t really have anything of value to offer him because I just started training two months ago… surely the strong guy doesn’t always win in the end? It didn’t seem like technique really mattered in the end. Now he just wants to weight train and stay a purple belt. It kind of sucked the fun out of it for him…

I’ve been training for a little over a month now (love BJJ). My instructor has just allowed me to free train (roll) with others (usually higher ranked belts). I often roll with the same few people and seem to only do the same techniques. I only know one or two submissions from most positions, so I’m really just doing the same the over and over again. I’m just frustrated that when it comes time to roll I can only remember one move from any certain position and then get stuck when I can’t do it. I get that I’ll learn more as time goes on, but I’m just down on myself and way too self conscious