What should I [19F] do about my boyfriend [20M]?
Okay so I’m going to try and keep this short. I love my boyfriend, we’ve always had our problems but we get through them. But these past few days have really made things clear.
Me (19F) went on a 3 day trip with my boyfriend (20M). On the first day I was tired and we got groceries and had a nice cozy night in at the Airbnb. We were watching our favorite show and in this show is an artist in New York City. This artist goes on a date and starts dating this girl. They’ve been dating for a week or two when the girlfriend finds out the artist has been lying about her parents and where she went to school. The artist admits she lied because she needed to for her career since no one would buy art from a poor un- schooled artist. This is also New York City so if she didn’t have money her life and career are ruined. The girlfriend is still very upset and yelling at the artist. I turn to me boyfriend and express that in this situation it’s understandable that the artist would be hesitant to tell the truth since they hadn’t been dating long and here career was on the line. After i expressed my opinion and view my boyfriend gets up and storms out yelling at me about how i think it’s okay to lie in relationship and how im a red flag.
He storms out and is gone for about 30 minutes. He comes back and I am “sleeping” on the bed. He lays down and gets his phone out. I peak my eye open and see him typing in a note on his phone. I then see him text him friend that he rarely ever talks to and definitely doesn’t text first. I knew something was up.
Later when he went to shower I snuck onto his phone and open his Notes app. There I found it - a list of all the “things she done” on the trip. One of them literally included the fact that he bought me McDonald’s and i didn’t eat it. I am on a high protein low sugar and carb diet and also the order was not what I get at all. So no i didn’t eat it, i couldn’t even if i wanted to.
There were about 5 things on this list. I snap a picture and move onto Snapchat. There I open the message with his friend and find out my bf texted him “guess how many things she’s already done the first day of our trip” and his friend guesses like 11. The conversation was my bf talking bad about me and also placing bets on how many things I’ll do by the end.
I confronted my boyfriend and tried to end it but he begged and promised to change- saying this will never happen again. I love him I do but this isn’t the first time I’ve been disrespected when he got mad so idk what to do.