u/Large-Divide-4769

This is a general statement but damn I started my first talking stage it’s been 5 weeks talking to him, the amount of conflicting information, advice and stories I’ve seen online is jarring!

Don’t talk everyday it’s okay, but he should call every night. He might be busy at work but also he should prioritise you and no one is that busy, but also you owe each other nothing and you should speak to other people.

Why is it so complex, I like him a lot but I’m an over thinker and I trying to privately mend it. But dang!

I’ve been talking to this guy for a month and we decided to do a first date, my first ever date. Context we spoke and called quite often and he was very quick to text since he was wrapping up school and so was I and my job was nice and easy. He’d literally text me after work and time it for after.

This is my first talking stage so my big mouth blabbered about I feel so stupid seriously. We went on the date and it was going great, great eye contact and we were talking for ages and we texted after about how we enjoyed it. Awesome

He started work 9-7:30 and didn’t rlly text me at all just responded to the two messages I sent didn’t ask me anything about my day nothing. Am I being ghosted, when do I take the hint and just leave it. I’m so embarrassed this has to be the most humiliating experience of my life. I can’t believe I actually liked someone and the feeling were completely wasted. How do I even get over the first person I’ve ever liked. We also haven’t spoken about a second date online, irl I asked and he was like yeah sorry I didn’t know this was date etiquette since it was also his first date too but I feel like an idiot.

I’m going on my first ever meet with a guy tomorrow, I’m ultra nervous I’m 5’9-10 and have lost a lot of weight and more on the curvy side Im not large but just curvy.

I’ve got no clue what size I am anymore after losing weight I get compliments on my proportions but am still suffering with a lot of self esteem issues like in my mind I’m huge until my mum will tell me to stop.

I was not planning on dating until I was happy completely and had abs or something but this guy texted me and he was my ideal type completely so I was excited.

The guy is aware but we haven’t met but I’ve got no idea what men even like, seriously I feel so dumb saying this stuff but I’m so anxious that if we stop talking on his end cuz maybe he wasn’t attracted to me I’m going to take it so personal.

What are some mindsets you girls/ guys have learnt to combat this when rejected and keep yourselves sane when rejected. He’s the first guy I’ve ever spoken to and date I’ve been on, so any advice on combatting that feeling of loneliness and doom.

Pls don’t be judgemental!

I’ve been talking to this guy for about a month now and first couple days he kind of told he was attracted to me and I’m pretty, cool. It’s been a couple weeks and he just kind of stopped calling me pretty or anything just likes stories and will texts me a lot and asks ab my day and call . Yesterday I go to a wedding I posted rlly cute pics but he doesn’t compliment or like not one, he didn’t even like the story but still asked me how it was the next morning. I don’t even get it why are you trying so hard to talk to me but not give me any compliments… people I haven’t even spoken to gave me compliments. Wthhhhh

I want to preface this by saying I’m not too experienced at this so I’ve come to Reddit again and again the last couple days and please don’t be too mean or passive aggressive in the comments. And we haven’t spoken since Tuesday and today is Thursday. But I started the convos from Sunday to Tuesday like a mug💔

I started talking to this guy during exam season and he was also doing his last project. We talked like everyday and called a lot for like 2 weeks. I finish exam season and he kind of stops talking, not a considerable amount but a little bit and no more calls. He then asks if we could meet up and I said cool.

He then proceeds to again go a little quiet for like a day and I text like how are you and he says stressed for his project and that he’d reschedule and apologised. But it irritated me I don’t think he would’ve even told me he couldn’t make it had I not initiated. But it’s been two days now and he hasn’t texted me. I understand he’s busy with uni but we both started speaking during the busiest period of uni where he made it sound like uni absolutely doesn’t stress him out. It just irritated me because we sorted out our intentions pretty early and I was extremely excited.

He apologised, but again when I initiated conversation and told me he’d give me the new date the next day but didn’t text at all. I’ve always been told if a man wanted to he will. This is the first guy I’ve spoken to for marriage and it kind of irritates me I don’t rlly know etiquette or anything. Pls understand he was so so amazing and reached out for those 2 weeks but now is literally dead silent. What’s the time frame to which this is definitely over and I’ve given him grace but it just takes 2 seconds to send a message saying hey sorry.

I’m going on my first date with my first taking stage but should I tell him this? I haven’t asked him if this is his first and frankly don’t care but I’m nervous and don’t rlly know date etiquette, I’m trying to learn but I’m just a little nervy.

How was your dynamic in the beginning of your talking stage that lead to marriage. I had this expectation that the talking stage which would to marriage would want to talk constantly forever or call constantly or just make it super clear he likes me. He’s great but it feels kind of like friends conversating now.

He’s my first talking stage and I just don’t know how to approach it I’m 20 he’s 22 we are both career driven and bonded off that but now I feel like we aren’t getting anywhere. I wish I knew more about this stuff.

Am I supposed to be overthinking texts and emotions, am I supposed to be curating messages for him. Am I supposed to be counting down the hours of him getting back to me. Is he supposed to be saying goodnight or good morning. These are things I thought would happen but haven’t happened. He’s a great and amazing personality but not I guess what I expected. Are men supposed to be like this. I always thought men who like you put effort in but I also feel like we aren’t dating yet it’s been 2 weeks so am I supposed to just wait. I don’t know I’m so inexperienced it sucks. I didn’t even expect to talk to anyone right now it just happened. Are we supposed to speak everyday?

I’m a UK girl who has never dated nor spoken to a man talking stage wise, have no male friends at all and just an overall male free life because I block men who are weird on the first opening message . I aim to remain like this until I look for a husband but sometimes i get kind of sad when I see Somali guys at my university, for example, and they do not acknowledge my presence at a predominantly white uni.

My mum is from a generation that no matter your appearance men and woman acknowledge one another in western countries and built a network and this isn’t scrutinised. For example I need career advice my mum would call so and so. Sometimes it hurts me because I’d love to just get to know my community, women and men alike, and maybe naturally find someone like other communities.

Sometimes the thought creeps in and honestly settles that Somali men my age simply don’t find me attractive and I’ll have to beg my mum to find me a husband because of my anxiety about men.

I’m 21, 5’10 and third year uni and I obviously have time of course, therefore this worry is for the future since I’d love to get married at 24ish with no wedding. However , I’ve built this idea that I want a man from a top UK uni, aiming for a secure job but I don’t even know how to find a man period.

I’ve always joked about being open to approaching likeminded guys who fit this idea first, like texting a soon to be medic and simply being direct and ask him if he would ever consider marriage in the near future. Every time I say this people get weirded out or tell me I’ll be chasing which has lead me to NEVER ever do it. I also have the issue where I’m rlly particular and rlly want a guy who is better than me, e.g. smarter than me even by a little, but I hate the idea of flirting online and honestly just want to meet naturally face to face or just straight date.

I have a cute public instagram, I post nice stories time to time and highlights but my followers are entirely all woman, only have woman in my inner and outer circle. And I’m approaching that age where things naturally settle in like work, uni and routine and I obviously start to think about relationships for the first time. Guys am I ac doomed.

Disclaimer pls don’t be mean or call me male centred because I’m quite literally the opposite. I’m really pessimistic about dating and marriage and I just wanted to know if there was someone like me who ended up finding someone. Also please do not hit me up men, this is not a now issue - feel very free to comment a male perspective but do not shukaansi in DMs.