u/Large-Lettuce-4801

My life-in partner and I have been together for 6 years now. When we met, I had been poly for about 5 years and she was pretty new to polyamory. As the years have gone on she’s become less and less okay with polyamory. She stopped looking for other partners, then asked me to not date anyone new while she figured things out. Recently she told me she can’t live a poly lifestyle or be in a relationship with a poly person.

I love her and the life we’ve built together but don’t know what to do. I’ve offered to close our relationship, but a week in its spiritually rough. I worked hard to accept myself, my feelings, and figure myself out as a polyamorous person. I’m not sure I *can* change, and I’m not sure I want to.