Self-regulating with bdsm while in relationship
I have a partner, we live together and have a happy relationship beyond DS dynamics. We also have bdsm scenes from time to time (I am sub, she doms) but mostly its kinky sex with some ds elements.
Last few monthes we both have hard time at our jobs and some family issues that takes time and effort and she is too much exosted to make a big scene for me.
As for me I use submissiveness and pain to calm myself when I am stressed. I have pretty submissive fantasies to help me relax at night and also I tried a few times to add something to a daily life to ground me during the day. It can be "corner time" when I am overwelmed, specific touches every 15 mins, like that. Helps to concentrate and stay calm (I work from home but work is stressful).
I definitely dont want any 24/7 ds relationship, but I feel like I am doing something wrong with this self-domination (?). But I am not really ok with sharing this with my partner also. Should I stop?
I d like to hear your opinions and advice about this situation.