Dating app noob. What do you look for ? 🚩? Immediate yes?
Late bloomer here, married to a dude for way too long. Fell in love with my catalyst and we were together 8 years, separated last fall. My therapist says it’s time for me to get in the dating apps. But I’ve never done the apps and I haven’t been on a real date since my 20s. (Cue overthinking)
Teach me what you wish you had known when you first set up a profile. What are the red flags? What do you look for? Is there something that makes you immediately swipe yes or no?
I’ve heard the pics are where you can really mess up. Do I include other people in the pics so I don’t look like a recluse? Or is that bad?
Is there a ratio of selfies to more formal pics? Is it bad if I include a professional headshot or two? (They’re the ones I like the most with my newest hair vibe)
Last question. I travel a lot for work. Is it weird to change your city and find someone new to have dinner with, even if you don’t live there?
Are there ways I can screw this up unknowingly? Or do I don the confidence of a mediocre white man and just throw it all out there?
(I am a fly fisher actually and I have some fabulous photos of me holding huge fish. My brain really wants to use one, just for the irony factor but I know that humor doesn’t translate well online.)