First match opened convo with bdsm
I (31F) decided to use a dating app for the first time because it’s so difficult to meet new people as an adult.
A lot of people liked my profile within the first day, but I wasn’t able to view any of them unless I paid. Then someone matched with me and opened asked me what new things have I tried (because in my bio I talked about stepping out of my comfort zone).
As a normal human, I replied oh I tried a hip hop class for the first time in my life, how about you? And he said oh I went for a bdsm meetup few weeks ago.
He unmatched me right after I said I’m not interested in bdsm despite him saying he recommends it and it’s part of ‘trying new stuff’.
I just thought… is this how people talk to strangers? Is this how dating is supposed to be nowadays?
I’m not saying he’s a bad person, just shocked that this is a conversation opener. I’m just thinking if I can even find someone.