u/LavenderLunate

I feel like being a Therian is a unique experience because there isn't anything like surgeries or HRT to help soothe the dysphoria. Putting on fake ears doesn't change my real ears and this line of thought follows me with everything.

It feels like I can't accept being a Therian unless there's actually a way to physically get the traits I want. Anyone have tips on coping with this? I'm trying to break this negative thought cycle but it's proving kinda rough...

I [30F] have come to the realization that I am a therian after years and years of repression. Now that I've discovered myself, I can't help but shake feelings of "cringe" and "regret" for lack of better words whenever I start feeling euphoria around my identity. Even when I have some people who are trying to uplift me I keep shutting down at the slightest feeling of actually being myself and I just don't know why. It's really grating on me tonight so I was wondering if someone would be able to shed some light on how they've felt about this in their past?

Thanks for the messed up title, autocorrect... "how I've been coming to"*

I mean, sure I can just say it and see what happens but idk. I know her and I have shared opinions on things like furries in the past (for lack of a better example here) and agreed that it's totally fine, harmless, and even seems fun even though it's not our cup of tea. And while knowing she already has that mentality about such a similar group (from outside perspectives) gives me hope she won't really care/won't shun me for this, I still have the fear she will "accept" it but never engage with it and pretend it doesn't exist. That's just the kind of thing I've come to expect from her when she doesn't like something but doesn't want to criticize others who do.

I'm scared I'd basically be telling her this and it would just be an "oh ok, *changes subject*" and then it just stays repressed in me with any attempt to be more genuine to myself being seen as "weird, but ok"

I'm just recently coming to terms with the fact that I'm a therian and while I still have my reservations I just wanted to know how some more "hard-headed" people were able to get over themselves and just be uniquely them.

Edit: maybe "guilt" isn't the right word but the only better one I can think of is "cringe" even though I kinda hate the word

Hello all!

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I'm coming here after being asked by a friend or two "are you maybe a Therian?" so I apologize if I'm inexperienced or don't word things properly.

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Basically I've never identified as a furry, therian, or anything of the sort ever in my life. I'm a 29 year old woman whose life isn't exactly in the best place it can be right now and it's led to a lot of depression and anxiety over the last couple of years. One thing that I've found myself doing a lot is falling asleep to, napping to, or just daydreaming a lot of hours away during the day.

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I guess I've kinda had a bit of a fascination with things like shifting ever since my Mom shared her beliefs in supernatural things like werewolves and ghosts. Now I personally believe that all to be out of the realm of possibilities, I don't believe in ghosts or humans being able to defy biology and be a different species. But it hasn't stopped me from constantly fantasizing about it.

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I've noticed now that a good chunk of my free time is spent sleeping or trying to sleep due to my depression and fatigue. Every time I lay down to nap or sleep I find myself fantasizing about what it would be like to not be human. To not have the burdens of society, to live freely in nature, and (to prevent rambling about all the reasons I feel I could be a therian) pretty much everything else I'm seeing discussed here.

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I kept telling a partner of mine all the time stuff like "I don't want to be a furry because I want it to actually be real. Like, I don't want to just identify as a fox or something but instead actually physically change/be one" and that's a view I still hold I guess. What's the point of identifying with something you can never have?