How can I support him after a fight....
I am in a long distance relationship, different countries and and my boyfriend lost his mom about 13 months ago. It's been up and down. We've had our setbacks and have made steps forward as well. This forum has always provided a place where I receive good advice and understanding. So I'm coming here for some two cents ..... about a week and a half ago we got into an argument and we're trying to resolve it, but he has become, which is understandable, even more avoidant than before. He's having a hard time really expressing himself and I've been trying to be patient but it became to the point where it didn't matter how I would word certain questions or give them time to answer. He just just refuses to address them and does the typical restrict, mute, ignore, dismiss. Out frustration and my own family problems, including recently being laid off, I hit the block button and he blocked me back. We have have touch base and he says he's fine but feels pressure. However, he will not answer my questions, he's just replying with a heart sticker, when it's heavy. He refuses to unblock me from some of the main lines of communication which is Messenger, WhatsApp and Telegram and unblockd everywhere else and I'm just at a point where not really sure what to do because he has also blocked me in his anger stages before and I get it and have also forgiven him, I guess I was just able to let it go easily, also it's in my nature to give people the benefit of the doubt until you show me otherwise, hence why I did it this time. It was very hurtful when he did it, but he doesn't see anything wrong with it because he is grieving and going through a difficult time. So I'm trying to understand with an added layer of grief, how that made him feel and also as a man how that made him feel. Ultimately, I don't want to keep pressuring him, but I also don't really know where to go from here ... Or if anyone has been in this position.
I have deeply apologized because I do regret my reaction and made an impulsive decision. Whether I was right or not, I should have just been myself which is usually a person who tries to be kind on her actions even in conflict, especially because I am still trying to understand his grief, while not experiencing it myself :/
THANKS 🫶🏽