u/LeadGen_haven

1. Poor communicators. This has nothing to do with grammar or syntax, but people who have terrible communication skills. They are running late and can't say. They grey/blue tick you. They flat out flake or cancel plans last minute. Tbh, I'd skip the face card, the intellect and even the body and go for a great communicator.
2. Non-initiators. Another lot of miserable people. If you're texting them and say something like, "ok", then that's the end of the conversation. They can't come up with something to talk about. You have to be the one sending them good morning texts, funny stuff or relatable stuff to keep it going.
3. People who don't reciprocate. They don't even have the EQ of a 10 year old to reciprocate something as simple as wanting to know how your day was after you've asked them how theirs was.
4. Those who run away from difficult conversations. They couldn't make it to a date you guys had and instead of communicating they go ghost mode and show up two days later claiming how sorry they are - aaaaarggh. Whenever you try to address something that's emotionally difficult or uncomfortable, they just want to bolt, change topics or zone out.
5. Vain people. They think everyone is into vain consumerism like them. What do you mean you're not using an iphone or a Samsung? Waah, you can't afford a wig?
6. People without boundaries. You tell them they can't be talking for hours with someone of the opposite gender coz it teeters to emotional cheating and they insist they're just friends, and nothing can ever happen. They're touchy with all people and give hugs to everyone.
7. Folks who follow, listen to and reference dumb podcasts or influencers. Uliona ile gari yenye "influencer" alinunuliwa?
8. Women who say stupid stuff like, "I'm just a girl." Aki nisaidie kufanya this, that and a million other things coz I'm just a girl.

I know, I know. Y'all will say, if she/he loves you, you won't struggle with any of these. Lol. Y'all forget that some of these traits are hard-wired into people's personalities.

People with such personalities, especially poor communicators, should just date each other and run each other mad

1. Poor communicators. This has nothing to do with grammar or syntax, but people who have terrible communication skills. They are running late and can't say. They grey/blue tick you. They flat out flake or cancel plans last minute. Tbh, I'd skip the face card, the intellect and even the body and go for a great communicator.

2. Non-initiators. Another lot of miserable people. If you're texting them and say something like, "ok", then that's the end of the conversation. They can't come up with something to talk about. You have to be the one sending them good morning texts, funny stuff or relatable stuff to keep it going.

3. People who don't reciprocate. They don't even have the EQ of a 10 year old to reciprocate something as simple as wanting to know how your day was after you've asked them how theirs was.

4. Those who run away from difficult conversations. They couldn't make it to a date you guys had and instead of communicating they go ghost mode and show up two days later claiming how sorry they are - aaaaarggh. Whenever you try to address something that's emotionally difficult or uncomfortable, they just want to bolt, change topics or zone out.

5. Vain people. They think everyone is into vain consumerism like them. What do you mean you're not using an iphone or a Samsung? Waah, you can't afford a wig?

6. People without boundaries. You tell them they can't be talking for hours with someone of the opposite gender coz it teeters to emotional cheating and they insist they're just friends, and nothing can ever happen. They're touchy with all people and give hugs to everyone.

7. Folks who follow, listen to and reference dumb podcasts or influencers. Uliona ile gari yenye "influencer" alinunuliwa?

8. Women who say stupid stuff like, "I'm just a girl." Aki nisaidie kufanya this, that and a million other things coz I'm just a girl.

I know, I know. Y'all will say, if she/he loves you, you won't struggle with any of these. Lol. Y'all forget that some of these traits are hard-wired into people's personalities.

People with such personalities, especially poor communicators, should just date each other and run each other mad.

...lurking here for a while and interacting with over a dozen folks from here.

1. If you're looking for a serious relationship here, then the odds are terribly against you. You're more likely to encounter a soft-spoken Meru/Kisii (super rare btw) than land your rib here.

2. The reason for number 1 is that you get to jump a ton of hoops coz of the anonymity. Image, age, hobbys, blah blah blah - you'd need a crazy number of people to filter.

3. And people who post updates after 3 days claiming they found someone? Lol - way too early to celebrate.

4. Be very wary of people who claim they value communication. In my experience, they usually turn out to be extremely poor communicators.

5. Those and the so called sapiosexuals. Methinks they are enamoured by people with intelligence because of their lack of it.

6. If you're a guy who is 30yrs and above, any lady below 23yrs who approaches you for a relationship just wants to live the Instagram lifestyle vicariously through you. In short, if your networth can't offer that, then pound sand.

7. For guys looking for FWB, stop the delusion. Most FWBs work when a guy friendzones a girl who really likes him. Almost all women bonk men they like and have some emotional connection.

8. Most people here are depressed and miserable. They're always bedrotting and so they're seeking some emotional release. Please go out and meet people in social events or when pursuing similar hobbies.

9. Ensure you meet after 1 week maximum. If they can't and keep flaking out, either they are NOT interested, or they are depressed or miserable. In whichever case, don't waste your time on such.

10. You'll rarely find a woman who wants to hook up here or anywhere else. Most women don't like that - they're emotional beings who want to connect emotionally first before it gets physical. The few DMs you got were from hookers.

11. And even if you get one, I bet you guys will have to chat and talk for a while (probably a few hours) before it happens. It's just how women are wired.

31M here.

I'm a homebody and basically looking for some company.

I love cooking and we could try doing Biryiani Chicken rice since I've never tried it out.

We could also try baking something for dessert.

I'm a pretty chilled dude with zero drama. I enjoy deep conversations but wouldn't mind an introvert.

Feel free to DM me if this tickles your fancy.