r/KenyanDatingCommunity

Mature. A Gentleman. Loyal. A Family man. Soft spoken. Patient. Respectful. Protective. A 'yearner' for me. Chalant. A nerd that talks about random stuff and doesn't mind if I don't understand. A lover of the outdoors - drives, camping, hikes, strolls. An attentive listener. A builder - loves to create and build. A great cook.

I'm 5'8, 27, model build or lean, an empath, outdoor lover, multiple hobbies and varying interests over time. I don't jump into dating so it'll be a gradual growth that starts as friendship.

I know I need a therapist yes but still I don't the damage is that bad . Yooooh but I crave some random weirdo stuff. Anybody lady evil enough to do it. Like kataa me kidogo and when I start to bleed drink that blood let me see it on your lips . Torture me and let me beg for mercy. I want some pain. And to the lest of the members we you all get loved . Like get fucking treasured by someone.

Hello, 27M moving to the states soon. I am here looking to find a friend(s) who can help me with the transition once I get there. A bit about me 5'10. I am into gaming, anime and outdoor activities especially cycling.

I have met my fair share of interesting women and wondered why I hadn't met them earlier as compared to anyone below 25 who seems clueless about the bigger picture...

Until either the lies of their past catches up fast e4nough, or its because she really needs a chump to take responsibility of her (un)doing. Hell nah. Why not have a good head while young and childless?

It is not ironic, i think its quite the formula. The boring part is having to court women irl and find out she reasons horribly, makes poor decisions, not clean tidy , no personality (i cant initiate all convos, and if i dont, weird silence) etc although fine physically. Something always has to give.

anyway idgaf, this aint seeking either

Leo supper tukule hadi mpishi.

There's something about someone who moves so gracefully in the kitchen and can cook good food. My next one will be this one. I had this one guy who cooked me chicken curry and rice. The next time I was to visit, he asked, 'What do you want me to cook for you, baby? What about a drink, cocktail?' I had a soft spot for that one, but then I was always moving and I stuck to my paper like a stapler. It was so good and the right kind of spicy. Anyway, lemme focus on cooking for now. Goal is to drain and fill while feeding.

I laughed with this guy telling him, I now understand why almost every other guy I spoke to told me that they love a woman who can cook. I love a man who can cook too, si wengi but yeah it's the effort that matters, I won't eat hio ugali mbichi though.

I hate how traumatized everyone is from dating. Like it's actually so sad.

Hi, I am 21M and i have never been in a relationship before. If you are F, single and interested hmu, I stay in South B.

Heyy Lovelies,
I am looking for friends ,these next 6 months🥹.So about me,27F,single,i work from home,i live along Thika road.
I am so into outdoors but i have very few friends.Nilisomea ushago so my friends are so far from me.
Just recently moved hizi sides.I would want my friends to be 27 and above and if you work from home even better.I am a bit shy and reserved and it has been hard finding my community but i want to change that🥹.I also want to host,cook and laugh all night with others especially my weekends😊
Kama in your friend group you need a plus one,i am here.I will bring soda and popcorns i promise😂.
Sina gari but i know i will get one soon,putting out there kwa universe,so usiogope kuniita drives😂.
I read a lot,so we can talk for hours about books,work,and everything in between.
I do not take alcohol,so i may not be one to call to a club,but if you need a friend for a hike or a comedy show,i am your girl.
Open to male and female friends❤️

So I recently moved back to juja, I used to stay here like a year or so ago while I was still in school. It's so boring with literally zero friends, everyone I knew moved away from here after school. So anyone around here or close to here, who would fancy friendship or anything else dm me.

Also, I am a MAN!

1. Poor communicators. This has nothing to do with grammar or syntax, but people who have terrible communication skills. They are running late and can't say. They grey/blue tick you. They flat out flake or cancel plans last minute. Tbh, I'd skip the face card, the intellect and even the body and go for a great communicator.

2. Non-initiators. Another lot of miserable people. If you're texting them and say something like, "ok", then that's the end of the conversation. They can't come up with something to talk about. You have to be the one sending them good morning texts, funny stuff or relatable stuff to keep it going.

3. People who don't reciprocate. They don't even have the EQ of a 10 year old to reciprocate something as simple as wanting to know how your day was after you've asked them how theirs was.

4. Those who run away from difficult conversations. They couldn't make it to a date you guys had and instead of communicating they go ghost mode and show up two days later claiming how sorry they are - aaaaarggh. Whenever you try to address something that's emotionally difficult or uncomfortable, they just want to bolt, change topics or zone out.

5. Vain people. They think everyone is into vain consumerism like them. What do you mean you're not using an iphone or a Samsung? Waah, you can't afford a wig?

6. People without boundaries. You tell them they can't be talking for hours with someone of the opposite gender coz it teeters to emotional cheating and they insist they're just friends, and nothing can ever happen. They're touchy with all people and give hugs to everyone.

7. Folks who follow, listen to and reference dumb podcasts or influencers. Uliona ile gari yenye "influencer" alinunuliwa?

8. Women who say stupid stuff like, "I'm just a girl." Aki nisaidie kufanya this, that and a million other things coz I'm just a girl.

I know, I know. Y'all will say, if she/he loves you, you won't struggle with any of these. Lol. Y'all forget that some of these traits are hard-wired into people's personalities.

People with such personalities, especially poor communicators, should just date each other and run each other mad.

Naeza pata a man in uniform🤭

One from the forces

In his 30's

Around nairobi

Taller than 5'7

Please and thank 😊

Hello loves. From the header, you might already have guessed what I'm about to say, but before you pass on your judgement, here me out. So, a while back, a very dear friend invited me to a night out with some former Uni friends. We've been friends with this person since high school and even rented a house together when we found ourselves in the same university. If I can describe our relationship, I'll say it was built on mutual trust, authenticity and genuineness. We were partners in crimes but also each other's chaperone, never shying to chastise when the other is wrong. We knew each other's families and they knew us back.

Back to the event now. We are linking with these two other friends, in the loose definition of the term friend. Location is 1824, L.A. Everything is good, the plan is moving on seamlessly. We go pick them up in Karen and it is ecstasy all over. Unending stories as we get lost into nostalgic reminiscing; all indications of a good night ahead. We get to our destination, a few drinks later and damn! The music is starting to sound a little rich and ethereal now. I can feel a pulsating push in my legs calling me to the dancefloor, but almost instantaneously, I catch myself and just nod rhythmically as a I enjoy my drink seated. The babes are enchanting under the colored lights, their faces glistening more than ever, their skirts skimpy, their dresses sheer and they are grinding seductively on the dancefloor flourishing expensive bottles. I can't say much about the gents, but damn again! They are spending like they print it.

As we grow into the night, we start getting a little loose. I was sat beside this other friend of ours and we've been chatting the whole time. We really weren't close in Uni. This might be the longest conversation we've ever had. One thing after the other, blah blah blah, we are feeding each other ice-cubes, then we are making out. Yes, that definitely escalated quickly. Without any care in the world and no fear of being the latest poster on NGC, it's PDA in here baby. Eff your cameras and most importantly eff your feelings.
Let me clarify that last part. So, my best friend, the organizer of this whole thing had for a long time crushed on this friend I was making out with and had unsuccessfully shot their shot. They had remained friends though for some reasons I knew on this day. The first time I met this friend we are exchanging fluids now was at a birthday party of one of our friends which my best friend had invited them. They wouldn't dance with my best friend though and kept giving them the shrug when invited to do something.

As you've already established, dancing isn't my type of thing so you would occasionally find me seated even if alone enjoying my drink. The friend leaves my best friend and comes sits by me. They are very mellow now and we are laughing our ribs as we share a cocktail. It was the first time we shared ice-cubes by the way. My best friend trusts me remember, and they are not alarmed when they see their date having a good time with me. They are actually relieved, at least the date is finally warmed up. The assumption from them and me is that everything is platonic and feelings will neither form nor spill past this night, and so did it happen at least from my side. After the party we go back home. I am exiled. The following day the date tells me unprovoked, they slept on the couch and let my best friend have the whole bed alone. Irrelevant information really. Neither did I ask nor do I care. That was 2 years ago. We never spoke nor met during that whole period until this moment. This night. Almost the same setting as the first time we met.

I didn't even know ice cubes had become our thing now, but this is fun. To be young!! I know, I'm such a shitty person but I blame the alcohol for this. We kissing as we whisper endearing and seductive monikers in each other's ears; we can't wait to tear each other apart. They tell me they had always had feelings for me but couldn't reveal them then because I was with someone, who actually happened to be a former schoolmate of theirs. What a twist, but without any confusion to typical bar talk, or maybe not. All this time I don't think I even notice my best friend is here. I'm so lost in my long-lost lover's aura that everything else is bleak. Maybe this is what they meant when they said I'll give you the world. I only see them when they signal me it's time to go. My new love insists we spend the night at their place because it's near and it's not safe for me and my best friend to travel at night back to our place which was quite a distance. We initially protest, but they insist and eventually we begrudgingly agree. We arrive and immediately the door is open we are tearing each other's clothes apart. Yes, it goes down like you are imagining with my best friend on the rear bed, a witness to everything.

The next day nobody speaks about it. My best friend doesn't speak to me about it also on our way home but doesn't seem upset about it. The vibe is kind of eerie and personally I can feel some tension even when they act calm like everything is okay. I swear everything happened inadvertently and arbitrarily, expediated by the alcohol intoxication. I am innocent!

Hello 30F here, ofc single but not sure whether I am ready for a relationship yet, just looking for a friend(M). I work from home and its a bit lonely sometimes. Just need a friend whom we can talk to, go out on adventures once in a while and if things go well, won't mind climbing the ladder. I would prefer 30 y/o and above.

Si kila saa ni story za ngono...

I attended some small event at arboretum last weekend and we played poker cards.

Others were playing other games (chess, jenga, scrabble, etc) but the four of us were playing cards.

I hadn't played in a looooong while and it was so much fun. We bantered, laughed, ate snacks and really had a good time.

If you'd like to play poker today in CBD as we watch content creators do their thing, let me know.

I'm not looking for a relationship, or anything of the sort. I don't care whether you're male, female or hermaphrodite😂. Just show up and let's play poker.

You can come solo or with friends as long it's a good number.

Please don't be slow - one of the guys was very slow while playing and it was getting to our nerves😂😂😂

I'll be in CBD from 3pm. DM if interested. No phone numbers will be shared.

If you are real and looking for a good relationship then connect with me

I'm 28M

Slim

Never married

No kids

Looking for women 18-40

28F here...looking for my soulmate 🤗

I won't say much about myself because this is not a job interview but this is what I like..

1. Please be intelligent...be ready to talk about anything and everything. I dislike people who can't have conversations. I also dislike ignorance, be curious about things around you

2. I love my man hands on 😅...you are a man...you can fix that tyre, that bed, that hanging cable. Why are we calling people to fix small small stuff?

3. I don't have a kid. Let the game begin 0-0. Bonus if you want to be child free 😊

4. Don't be too religious

5. A bonus if you come from a functional two parent household

6. Don't be fat 😩

7. Since I love having my money, I'll love you even harder if you can help me make more money😂

Just DM hun🤭

PS: I'm not financially stable but I don't care about your money. I can cover my bills like other adults

I recently moved back to Kenya and figured this would be a decent place to meet new people.

Looking to make a genuine friend—guy or girl.
If you’re a guy, we make a new bro.
If you’re a girl and we happen to click, I’m open to seeing where things go naturally.

A bit about me: I’m easygoing, enjoy good conversations. I have a pretty random sense of humor (I mean it 😂😂😂)
I appreciate genuine people and good vibes over anything else.

If you think we’d get along, feel free to DM me. (Bonus points if you’re weird)

Not saying that I'm unwilling to spend on a woman or even that I won't buy if I'm down bad but, sometimes I want something that is less transactional and more genuine connection.

I met a guy here on Reddit, and we hit it off almost instantly. We talked, texted a lot, and honestly, he made me catch feelings faster than I expected.

The last message he sent was late at night. I didn’t reply until the next morning because I was asleep. When I woke up and went to respond, I discovered he had blocked me everywhere : Reddit, chats, everything.

There was no argument, no warning, and nothing seemed off in our last conversation.
Now I’m left wondering: should I try reaching out through another way just to find out what happened, or should I take the block as my answer and leave it alone?

Has anyone else experienced something like this?