u/cayennebae

https://www.reddit.com/r/unhingedKenya/s/lpeMfoUKO3I

I met this guy at a house party. We had chemistry, cuddled and spent the night together but never had sex. He ghosted me afterward, so I mirrored him and we had no contact for a month.

During that month he met my friends separately and flirted with them. We met again at another party, where he kept provoking me about flirting with my friends and even announced to everyone that I had a crush on him. We cuddled again, but later I got triggered by everything we'd never discussed and left.

After another two weeks of silence, I contacted him about a completely platonic deal. We chilled, smoked a little, and he promised to send me the money (KSh 500). He never did and then ghosted my calls/texts.

And THAT is what has hurt me the most. 😂

I know it's not really about KSh 500. I felt like I had accepted that he wasn't interested romantically, tried to keep things platonic, and he still managed to disrespect me in the most basic situation.

This happened a week ago and I've brought it up to my friends three times. They're saying I'm way too emotional, that this clearly isn't about KSh 500, and that they can just give me the money.

I DON'T WANT YOUR MONEY. I WANT TO RANT. 😂

I've spent years listening to them rant about their boyfriends and baby daddies, so I expected them to let me rant about my one ridiculous situation too. They say I'm keeping score and that I'm too attached. Even my brother agrees.

Maybe I am.

Also, I've been celibate for over two years and I did NOT have sex with this guy. My friends genuinely cannot comprehend that. 😂

So Reddit, am I overreacting?

So I (30F) met this person (35M) in a house part had a flirtatious night cuddling etc when we went our different ways he ghosted me and I mirrored him perfectly so no contact.

See he met my friends (28F & 29F)later in a different Context and flirted with them during the one month we were ghosting. This man is a spender , a charmer , the life of the party.

Then we met a second time after a month in another party.

So we had a weird situation where whenever we met we cuddled and spend the night together but no sex now everyone saw us get in the same room so what can I say they all believe we had sex and the guy is letting them believe that .

Now the last house party we met we were cordial but he kept trying to provoke me letting me know he has been flirting with them communicating with them while ghosting me he even let the whole room know I have crush on him while it's been a month since we last talked.

We ended up cuddling again and I didn't care i had been starved. In the middle of the night he was like "talk to me" I got so triggered, I left the bed and left the house basically closing the door with actions no words.

We have never talked about anything between us why he ghosted why he was speaking to my friends why he was rubbing it on my face .we just swept things under the rag and just cuddled . After the last time I realized even the cuddles ain't worth it so I left.

After two weeks of silence I contacted him about a platonic deal. I gave him the goods, we chilled and smoked a little bit very platonic and he promised he would send the money evening or the next morning nd he never honored his word of paying me. So me I became so hurt. I tried calling him n texting him about the money but he ghosted me. I felt so hurt like after mirroring him on the romantic side he really did get me over this over less than 1k.

So now Iam running to my friends like this was the third time I had brought it up and this happened a week ago. they are saying I took things so personally and im like yes I did toke them personally it's not a secret. I expect you to let me rant about it the same way I have been listening to them for years about their baaby daddies and their boy friends.

The are like this is a small issue you shouldn't be getting this explosive, this passionate. This is about more than the 500 or there is something else and im like yes it's about more than the 500 it's about I felt disrespected he didn't get me romantically but he got me like this

And no they want to make this about the guy instead of how I have been listening to them for years about their baby Dady they are like or we contribute that money so she can stop ranting but I can't ranting I just want to rant about this one "small" issue

And everyone is agreeing with them even my brother is like I got too emotional too attached lm talking it out ob them I felt so hurt knowing the years I spent listening to their boy issues and I expect you to listen to me the way I have been listening to you for years about different guys and baby daddy's and they are like you have been keeping score you can't compare that with a fling.

I feel so hurt by this random guy and by my friends not letting me be hurt not letting me rant.

Also for real I have been celibate for two years. And I didn't have sex with this guy but they can't believe or comprehend that .

Did I over react keep in mind this happened a week ago and this was my third time bringing it up?

You can follow the previous post through the link. https://www.reddit.com/r/unhingedKenya/s/lpeMfoUKO3

So I met this person in another house party and it had been a month since we last met or spoke.

See he met my friends later in a different Context and flirted with them during the one month we were ghosting. This man is a spender , a charmer , the life of the party.

So we had a weird situation where whenever we met we cuddled and spend the night together but no sex now everyone saw us get in the same room so what can I say they all believe we had sex and the guy is letting them believe that .

Now the last house party we met we were cordial but he kept trying to provoke me letting me know he has been flirting with them communicating with them while ghosting me he even let the whole room know I have crush on him while it's been a month since we last talked.

We ended up cuddling again and I didn't care i had been starved. In the middle of the night he was like "talk to me" I got so triggered, I left the bed and left the house basically closing the door with actions no words.

We have never talked about anything between us why he ghosted why he was speaking to my friends why he was rubbing it on my face .we just swept things under the rag and just cuddled . After the last time I realized even the cuddles ain't worth it so I left.

After two weeks of silence I contacted him about a platonic deal. I gave him the goods, we chilled and smoked a little bit very platonic and he promised he would send the money evening or the next morning nd he never honored his word of paying me. So me I became so hurt. I tried calling him n texting him about the money but he ghosted me. I felt so hurt like after mirroring him on the romantic side he really did get me over this over less than 1k.

So now Iam running to my friends like this was the third time I had brought it up and they are saying I took things so personally and im like yes I did take them personally it's not a secret. I expect you to let me rant about it the same way I have been listening to them for years about their baaby daddies and their boy friends.

The are like this is a small issue you shouldn't be getting this explosive, this passionate. This is about more than the 500 or there is something else and im like yes it's about more than the 500 it's about I felt disrespected he didn't get me romantically but he got me like this

And no they want to make this about the guy instead of how I have been listening to them for years about their baby Dady they are like or we contribute that money so she can stop ranting but I can't ranting I just want to rant about this one "small" issue

And everyone is agreeing with them even my brother is like I got too emotional too attached lm talking it out ob them I felt so hurt knowing the years I spent listening to their boy issues and I expect you to listen to me the way I have been listening to you for years about different guys and baby daddy's and they are like you have been keeping score you can't compare that with a fling.

I feel so hurt by this random guy and by my friends not letting me be hurt not letting me rant.

Also for real I have been celibate for two years. And I didn't have sex with this guy but they can't believe or comprehend that

I'm I the asshole?

I blame all of you for your advice on this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/unhingedKenya/s/b0Hjz2CVjz

So following your advice i decided to call not text he picked up very happy. The call got disconnected he called me back immediately saying he misses me and when he comes back to my county he will look for me. (He was coming back the next day this was last Sunday but one)

Guys it’s been over one week i haven’t heard from him and I haven’t checked in so it’s been silence. Atleast I didn’t have sex with him.

He was the first man to touch me in any sort of way n cuddle in two years he unlocked something in me. I feel lonelier that before like a soul shattering kind of loneliness. To make things worse im ovulating i have no one , touching myself is making me feel depressed and like a looser and I still don’t want to have casual sex i want a fulfilling kind of sex.

The solitude life i built was fulfilling and peaceful but now it’s a cage I feel so unfulfilled and yes I go out and do things alone but it’s no longer enough im craving chaos.

Yes I started getting approached in June not sure what changed maybe I became more open but nth solid that guy from the road-trip was really hopeful and he made me realize I really do miss tetestrone.

I hate it here. 2 years is a long time to go without touch, anything casual will make me feel even worse. Im feeling depressed.

Last weekend I met someone on a road trip with friends and we spent the weekend together drinking and partying and making out. No sex though we siept in the same bed.

On Wednesday he called me we left each other on Monday on Wednesday he called me and said he was breaking the silence and also updated me on what he’s been up to but it wasn’t a good time so when he asked what about me I said im working and I actually need to get back to it. Our call was 4 minutes.

Since then we haven’t spoken via call or text.

I have been celibate for two years. He was the first man to touch me in 2 years the cuddles the hugs the kisses the way he kept pulling me close even when chatting with friends is what I’m missing. I had forgotten how strong a man is like you guys I went from 0 to 100 and now it’s been 4 days of silence.

Has he lost interest?

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