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My husband has been captain at a regional for roughly 4 months. He chose to commute to his hub and does not want to move to or near his northeast hub. We originally moved when he was a new FO to the city he was assigned and we do really enjoy it here. That being said, the most time we are ever going to have together is about 2 days per week. We usually only get 1 day per week. I HIGHLY doubt he gets a line or back to his original hub where we live any time soon. He says a year or more. I’m holding strong and trying not to complain too much, but when I think about another year or more of this, I want to scream! We are so thankful for his job and know that this is just how it is.

Any tips, tricks, advice, affirmations, tough love? Give it all. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Edit to clarify: He is on reserve. When I say 1 whole day that’s what I mean. He stays at a crash pad unless he’s called for a trip obviously. He gets home the night that his reserve has ended, has 1 day at home, and then leaves the next morning for his next reserve sequence.

For context: I’ve been with my pilot for 6 and a half years, married for 2 and half. He recently upgraded at a regional and I see him 1-2 days a week (I commented on someone’s post today but under the wrong account, so this may look familiar). He commutes the day before his reserve and comes home the day he’s released. We don’t want to move- I offered but we both know we wouldn’t enjoy the city he’s based in currently.
Because of our lack of time together and everything at home falling on me now, I’ve been thinking about quitting my part time job. It’s in healthcare so I work 2 long shifts and a half shift per week. My boss works with my husband’s unpredictable schedule and lets me off the one day that he’s home. However, there are things about my work environment that are burning me out.
I have always ALWAYS worked. I worked through undergrad and graduate school and I went back to school only to postpone because the responsibilities at home and work became too much and I couldn’t keep up. We don’t have kids and aren’t really planning to have any at the moment. I’m also 9 and a half hours away from any and all family. Are there any other spouses in here that quit their jobs to keep their lives running?