Help.
Title: Am I wrong for wanting to go to Thailand with my friends?
My partner and I are having a disagreement, and I’d really appreciate some outside perspectives.
Before we started dating, I had already been to Thailand multiple times. It was already a place that meant a lot to me.
After we got together, we also went to Thailand together, and because of that it became a very special place in our relationship too.
Recently, my friends planned a trip to Thailand and invited me. I invited my partner as well, but my partner said they didn’t want to come. My partner is also planning a trip to another country to spend time with family and friends, and told me they don’t want me to come because they want that time with them. I completely understand and respect that.
When I told my partner I was thinking about going to Thailand with my friends, they got very upset. They said that just the fact that I would even consider going there with my friends makes them feel like I’m replacing the memories we made together and the memories we were supposed to make in the future. They feel that Thailand won’t be special to us anymore.
The problem is that I genuinely don’t see it that way. To me, trips with friends and trips with a partner are completely different experiences. Thailand was already special to me before our relationship, and I don’t think going there with friends would erase or replace the memories I have with my partner or make a future trip together any less meaningful.
Because my partner was so hurt, I even told my friends that maybe we should choose another destination instead. They went quiet, and I think they were disappointed because they were excited about Thailand.
I’m not trying to dismiss my partner’s feelings because I know they’re real. I just don’t understand if I’m actually being inconsiderate, or if we simply have very different ways of viewing places and memories.
Am I wrong for wanting to go with my friends, or is this just a difference in perspective?