AITA for asking my husband to stop going to his weekly board game nights because I need him home to help with our newborn?
I (29F) gave birth to our first child two months ago. It's been a huge adjustment. I'm exhausted from the constant feedings, the lack of sleep, and the overwhelming feeling of being responsible for a tiny human 24/7. My husband "David" (31M) took two weeks off work when she was born, but then went back full-time.
I understand he needs breaks. He needs time to decompress. But every single Friday night, he goes to his board game night with his friends. He leaves at 6 PM and doesn't come back until midnight. It's like clockwork.
Last Friday, I had a really rough day. The baby was colicky and wouldn't stop crying. I barely had time to eat or shower. I was in tears by the time David was getting ready to leave. I asked him if he could skip it just this one time. I told him I needed him home.
He said he knew I was stressed, but he'd been looking forward to this all week. He said he works hard all week and he deserves his one night. He told me I could call my mom or a friend if I needed help. He said I should be more supportive of him.
I snapped. I told him he's not the only one who needs a break. I told him I'm on call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and I never get to leave the house or see my friends. I told him I'm exhausted and I need a partner who's actually present, not someone who checks out for six hours every Friday.
He said I was being unfair. He said he's a good father and husband and he doesn't ask for much. He said I'm trying to take away the one thing he does for himself.
I told him I'm not trying to take it away forever. I'm asking him to skip one night, maybe even just come home early. He said I was being controlling and that I don't respect his need for his own time.
He ended up going anyway and stayed until after midnight. I cried myself to sleep. Now it's Monday and we're barely talking. I don't feel like I'm asking for too much, but he's making me feel like I am.
AITA?