New BF [30M] is bad in bed, how can I [31F] handle it? help!
Hi guys!
So I [31-F] met this cute guy [30-M] at the wedding of my sister. We hit it off straight away, we had lovely dates, and I have to say he’s quite a good kisser. We have been dating for four months now.
However, I’ve come to find out he’s not good in bed. He tries to do oral and fingering but it’s not really good. There really isn’t that much passion. Were exclusive and I tried to tell him the following:
- you can just grab me and take me (he said yes, he will do that - but he didn’t).
- I tried to guide his hand down there but it was not really working. I believe this made him more insecure.
I’ve had a conversation with him in which I said I want him to have some more touching with me and that I didn’t have an orgasm yet, and that it’s frustrating. He only answered that it was because I was on my period a lot. He didn’t say anything like; oh I didn’t know this was a problem, how can we work on it?
Also I told him I would like to see him more in the weekends but he doesn’t listen to this either. Overall he seems pretty passive.
Does anybody have any experience in this and how did you solve it? Part from that he is kind and he wouldn’t hurt a fly. We have nice dates. Not sure how to tackle this.