I don’t really post on here but figured it might be worth a shot.
For context, I’m a christian(catholic) and have been dating my Muslim boyfriend for the past 2 years. I think we’re great together and respect each other as partners. He’s great, loving, empathetic and truly values me.
However, the issue of family keeps coming up and it bothers me. His family isn’t the best- he’s shared with me a bunch of trauma and stories he’s had to face as their first son. But no matter how he might feel about them, he always shows up for them even if that means calling off work to fix a minor issue.
I’ve been bringing up the issue of being introduced to his family since Dec 2024. At first, he shared that he told his brother about me (sometime in ‘24) but he didn’t tell his mom about me until August 2025. But I think he didn’t really specify how serious our relationship was because a month ago, (after I asked) he told his mom he wanted me to meet her and she basically went on a spiral about the religious differences. I think that set him off because he hasn’t tried suggesting anything to her again. I keep bringing up the conversation but he’s waiting for his next therapy appointment.
His siblings on the other hand I still haven’t met. He keeps giving excuses for that and it just baffles me because 1) I assume it would be easier to get along with siblings than parents and 2) he sees them like every other weekend.
Whenever we’re together and his mom calls, he always cooks up some lie when she asks where he is/what he’s doing. It hurts me and I’m heavily starting to rethink the relationship because I’m going to be moving out of state in a few weeks and I feel like that’s going to make the situation worse. I’d love to get along with my future partner’s family and I don’t even see how I can do that if I haven’t even got the chance to meet them 2 years into the relationship. It feels like he hasn’t found a way to stand up to his family and at the end he’s just going to marry a Muslim girl his family wants. Am I wasting my time?
TLDR: I’ve been with my Muslim boyfriend for 2 years and despite several attempts, still haven’t met his family. Am I wasting my time?