I(26M) and partner(27F) need to pick a side
Going on 7 years together.
As friends I said I dont want kids.
She later asked me out and I said yes.
After awhile dating it came up again and I said no kids. Chilled.
Then not so chilled.
I said if you are uncertain thats fine but when you turn 25 decide... if you want the option leave if not stay.
Well 25 rolled around I briefly said hey do you remember what we said about this particular birthday(a few weeks after) and she said yes I want to be with you.
2 years later she is now having second thoughts about wanting kids.
Eventually it came out that she definitely wants kids.
Personally I think its because her career is not where she had hoped it would be by now and if her career sucks then she might as well be a mom so her life has meaning idk.
I was hurt and upset and confused because I don't want to be single or date anyone else.
Even if I wanted kids I still live with my parents because my job doesn't pay well so its hard to fathom being a father one day.
I said I would think about it and probably change my mind because I would do anything for my partner even giving them a child but the way I am disgusted by babies makes me think I am silly and must just rip the bandaid off now.
My biggest fear is splitting up and then in 10 years actually wanting kids and then just living with regret stalking my ex seeing her with another man and children.
Not sure what I'm doing posting here but I have had nowhere else to talk about this :/