u/Left-Nose-8058

I feel like I’m reaching my breaking point and I honestly don’t know what to do anymore.
Me and my partner have been together for almost 5 years.
We have a 4Y old daughter together and I’m currently almost 7 months pregnant with our second baby. I’m also at university and work part time, although I’m currently off because my mental health has been really bad lately.
The issue is that I feel completely unsupported. We constantly argue because he doesn’t help around the house unless I ask repeatedly, and even then sometimes he just ignores me. A few weeks ago he lost his job and was out of work for a while, and during that time I still felt like I was carrying everything — the house, parenting, pregnancy, my studies, my mental health — all on my own.
We had a huge argument about it and instead of trying to sort things out privately, he phoned his mum and started calling me names to her. His mum has always been overly involved in our relationship. Before we even got our house she came to every viewing and has strong opinions on everything. She tells him what to do constantly, including how much money he should give his sister for her wedding even though we’re struggling financially and have another baby on the way.
What hurts even more is that neither his mum nor sister really bother with me or my daughter unless it suits them. My daughter isn’t even invited properly to the wedding, but they want her there for pictures and his mum has already dictated what she should wear. He always sides with his family and never confronts them about anything or how they make me feel.
The other week I overheard his aunt mentioning my name on the phone to his mum a few days after our argument, and his mum quickly hung up and made an excuse. It just made me feel like they all sit around talking about me behind my back.
I feel isolated, exhausted, and honestly trapped. I don’t know if I’m overreacting because of pregnancy hormones and stress, or if this situation genuinely isn’t healthy anymore. I love my children more than anything but I don’t know how much longer I can keep living like this.
Edit: I think it’s only fair that I add a bit more context. When we were living at my mum’s house with our first child, things were very difficult there as my mum who is bipolar wanted us out. My partner went away for work for a period of time and managed to save enough money for the deposit on the house we now own together. He also later took a pay cut so he could come back home and be around more for our daughter.
He works as a tradesman and usually works 5–6 days a week, sometimes locally and sometimes travelling for work. He does cook occasionally and helps clean at times when I ask him to. I know he works hard financially for our family, and I don’t want to make out like he does absolutely nothing. I think my main issue is that I feel emotionally unsupported and overwhelmed with the mental load of everything lately.
I am asking for advice. How can I talk to him or get through to him about this?
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I feel like I’m reaching my breaking point and I honestly don’t know what to do anymore.
Me and my partner have been together for almost 5 years.
We have a 4Y old daughter together and I’m currently almost 7 months pregnant with our second baby. I’m also at university and work part time, although I’m currently off because my mental health has been really bad lately.
The issue is that I feel completely unsupported. We constantly argue because he doesn’t help around the house unless I ask repeatedly, and even then sometimes he just ignores me. A few weeks ago he lost his job and was out of work for a while, and during that time I still felt like I was carrying everything — the house, parenting, pregnancy, my studies, my mental health — all on my own.
We had a huge argument about it and instead of trying to sort things out privately, he phoned his mum and started calling me names to her. His mum has always been overly involved in our relationship. Before we even got our house she came to every viewing and has strong opinions on everything. She tells him what to do constantly, including how much money he should give his sister for her wedding even though we’re struggling financially and have another baby on the way.
What hurts even more is that neither his mum nor sister really bother with me or my daughter unless it suits them. My daughter isn’t even invited properly to the wedding, but they want her there for pictures and his mum has already dictated what she should wear. He always sides with his family and never confronts them about anything or how they make me feel.
The other week I overheard his aunt mentioning my name on the phone to his mum a few days after our argument, and his mum quickly hung up and made an excuse. It just made me feel like they all sit around talking about me behind my back.
I feel isolated, exhausted, and honestly trapped. I don’t know if I’m overreacting because of pregnancy hormones and stress, or if this situation genuinely isn’t healthy anymore. I love my children more than anything but I don’t know how much longer I can keep living like this.
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