Don't want my dad to walk me down the aisle, I want to ask my aunt to
I'm planning my wedding with my fiance for sometime at the end of this year. We've been engaged for 2 years so this planning has been on and off throughout that whole time. During this time, my dad never cared to ask or chat about anything. At one point when I was talking to him on the phone about the wedding he abruptly handed the phone to my grandmother and said she would love to talk about it. I'm sure there's something here about him not being emotionally available or something, but whatever. Our relationship is okay I guess, I think I just know what not to expect from him and that he'll never really change, I don't really tell him much about my life (not that he asks much).
As I've been thinking about what I want the ceremony to look like I would be okay with walking by myself (I think the "giving" away symbolism is outdated and gross), but I'd actually love for my aunt to walk with me. My mom died when I was 12 and my dad split custody with my mom's sister and she raised me and my younger sister from then on. I'm very close to my aunt we talk all the time and she's always really been such an incredible role model and someone who I value a lot. I love my dad but I can't really say the same about him in other capacities.
I'd love to ask her to walk with me as I feel it would represent the really profound impact she's had on my life and shaping me into who I am today, but I would worry about it making things tense with my dad and his whole side of the family (I'm also not very close to the rest of his side, for similar reasons).
I guess I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place because I'm not sure if it's worth the drama but my aunt is a really special person to me (and my fiance, he loves her). It feels inauthentic to pretend any other way and my dad and I have an okay relationship and him and my fiance are also just fine. It feels all meh in all directions.