First time mom Failing my child and need to get it off my chest
Update: First of all, wow thank you all so much for these incredibly kind comments. I’ve never made a post on Reddit before I truly just wanted to get this off my chest and I did not expect anyone to really respond. You all are so kind, thank you
I saw his pediatrician today and she is determined to figure this out with me. She is sending his stool off to test for blood to determine a milk allergy. In the meantime she has put us on goats milk formula.
I saw a comment about breast feeding. My milk quite literally never came in. I don’t mean a low supply I mean none ever. I saw multiple lactation consultants and my OBGYN. No one could tell me why and they all said they’d never seen this before. I was triple feeding - pump, breast, formula- and he was losing weight. He was exerting more calories trying to breastfeed and he was starving. So yes, I would have loved to have breast fed him, but it was physically not possible for some reason.
I have read every comment and will be trying all your suggestions!! Again, thank you all so much. I can’t express how much better this made me feel.
My son is 9 weeks and screams after every feed. Full body red screaming. We’ve tried different formulas, had his tongue tie revised, started Pepcid. He seems so miserable. It takes him so long to calm down and I get maybe an hour a day of a calm happy baby and I try to do as much as I can in that hour- reading, tracking objects, moving his body. But of course that’s a lot for a newborn at once and he’ll let me know when he’s overwhelmed with it all. Then I have to end with tummy time and he screams. His 2 month appointment I was told he has a slight soft spot on the right side of his head from me holding him. I spend most of the day holding him. He hates the swing, and being put in a lounger or put down at all. I haven’t been switching the arms I was holding him with because honestly I didn’t even think of it. He has torticollis as well so we will be taking him to a PT. I teach kindergarten and I had such high hopes for all the activities we would do together to build his brain, and now my days I just try my best to comfort him. I gave him a flat spot, I have no idea why he’s screaming after feeds, and I know I’m not doing tummy time as much as I should but I am trying to do it more. I am failing him in every way.