Not really sure how to start this so i'll just cut straight to the point: i'm a 36 yr old lesbian living in the Midwest (USA), i have a mental disability that makes it fairly hard to *human* properly & i recently realized that ever since i came out/escaped the guy who was trying to convert me i have struggled to keep a roof over my head & food on the table (who i am kidding - i eat in front of a TV or my phone when i can get wifi access 🤣 not at a table).
I have talked with other late diagnoised female ADHDers & they are mostly married & have support that way.
That made me wonder if i shouldn't be trying to team up other sapphics to help each other out. Espescially since
There was an article that came out maybe 5 yrs ago that said that every state in the country has a minimum wage that is too low to support a single person & them affording a 1bedroom apartment. && another more recent article named the top 10 cities with the fastest increase in housing costs & the #1 city was where i just lost my home.
The american social & economic system has always rewarded hetersexual couples & those with kids even more. I don't like the idea that we should *have* to couple up to survive much less as women who love women in a world where that isn't always safe, allowed or accepted.
Roomates seems to be the obvious solution but my problem has always been actually finding on without being in a romantic relationship - that's the only time living together has ever come up in conversation/our plans as an adult (in my experience).
I don't think this post is going to solve my situation by any means & i am not asking for help at all. What i am hoping for is to check in with you guys & see if this is something anyone else has struggled with or noticed. Perhaps this can start a conversation that might lead to creating inner community support of some kind.
I know younger queer kids also face housing struggles when attempting to come out & their parents don't accept/support them. There are resources here for them if they are younger & i love that but without kids of my own it seems like if i wanna see support for queer women my age i might need to do the scary thing & admit i'm struggling first. So yeah this is me trying to do.
Thanks for reading if you made it this far down.