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Tell me how you're spending your day!

I was casually talking to a woman. We weren't official, nor did we go on a date, but we planned to November. We live 2 states away. She dumped me when I mentioned I have a crush on a colleague, but she was was talking to 2 other women in her state. She got angry at me for "rejecting" her, delighted that I wouldn't be my crush's type, and said I was wasting her time.

Am I wrong for being honest about my crush?

So, how did y'all celebrate?

Title basically... have a long awaited holiday coming up and I wouldn't be the best at shopping so I need inspiration.

Please help!

ETA: Thanks everyone! Seems the consensus is shorts and a bra, will get those then. Humankind isn't available to me so I'll just grab something from Asos/M&S.

Hi again! I've been thinking more about the idea I posted about before, and I wanted to get some thoughts on a slightly different direction.

Originally, I was thinking about organizing a Black sapphic singles weekend in BC. But the more I've thought about it, the more I've wondered whether there might also be interest in other kinds of gatherings.

As someone who tries to make friends as an adult, I know it isn't always easy. Sometimes you want to meet someone to date, but other times you just want to find your people, make genuine friendships, or connect with others who share your experiences.

I'm now exploring three possibilities:

• A Black sapphic singles weekend
• A friendship and community weekend
• A networking and connection event for Black women

I'm curious whether having different kinds of events would make more sense, rather than focusing on dating alone.

I made a short survey to get a better idea of what people would actually be interested in. If you're comfortable sharing your thoughts, I'd really appreciate it!

Help Me Bring Black Women Together 🖤

I'd also love to hear your thoughts in the comments. Do any of these ideas appeal to you more than the others?

As a queer woman who is attracted only to women, one sometimes feels alone, because we live in a heterocentric society not being attracted to men creates the sense of moving through a world apart a reality that bi+ women cannot understand.

exactly what the title says lol

i'm an Asian American sapphic in NYC and personally, i find it hella difficult to clock other Asian sapphics, they all look straight to me 😭

i can easily befriend any other race but my own :(

i've tried on the dating apps like HER and Hinge but they all seem to be more interested in dating than making a new friend

i was looking online and there's this group called SASS but they have a Facebook page but i don't have Facebook anymore and i don't really do social media.
does anyone know how i can get in touch with this group?

i just want more queer Asian friends 😔

Just wanna share my time last night

Went to a bar where bands were playin for free and went with some friends. Music and vibes were good, had a drink in me, a lil high, and spotted this gorgeous woc across the space. I walked up to her and (i think someone from this sub or another mentioned this approach🙈) asked "Are you gay enough to let me buy you a drink."

IF IT WASNT FOR THE DRINK I DONT THINK I WOULD'VE HAD THIS COURAGE😭 ty whiskey sour 🙏🏽

Got her a drink and asking about her, calling her gorgeous and all that. But then I started to notice something.... As I was trying to get to know her, she barely turned the questions back to me. There would be brief pauses that were awkward until I asked her MORE questions. She was more than happy to "yap" but I felt like the curiosity towards me was non-existent.

I started feeling like an interviewer or a fan and fuuuuuck that. Feel bad about this but I eventually started to feel bored of the conversation. But because this was my first time ever hitting on a woman, I didn't know how to exist respectfully.

Also a dude behind me literally LOOMED OVER ME to tell this girl he liked her hair 😭 I gave him the craaaaaziest look like MOVE OUT THE WAY.

Anyways, I'm starting to notice majority of people are very bad at conversation and one of the main reasons I hated dating apps. I would rather talk to you in person to gauge the REAL you, not a version of you that only shines behind a screen. Texting and the convenience of it gives people a false sense of closeness+boldness that would have never translated in person.

Maybe I'm the one bad at striking conversation. But again, she went on and on about her experience or about herself so I guess I hit the right spots. But the curiosity or inquisitiveness wasn't returned. Is it poor social skills? Or she just dgaf 😹 Maybe she wasn't into me and went along with the facade as long as she could... but I didnt sense any cues she wanted to leave the convo 🤷🏽‍♀️

I'm not too mad. I'm glad I broke out of my shell and approached someone I found attractive. I see it as a step in the right direction. Gotta get better at crowd work and learning to walk away before it gets to that point I suppose.

Trying to not feel to down on myself, maybe it was the environment or maybe how I look (multi-colored dyed mullet) that most people don't approach me bc maybe they're intimidated? But there were other alt people at this bar too so... 🤷🏽‍♀️

lol thanks for reading.

what are the gay people doing in NYC??? I’m trying to find events but I don’t know much about what’s happening with the gay community there