AITA for Paying Child Support?
So I (40m) who am from the US am quite well traveled.
I met “Anne“ (Definitely not even close to her real name) (25f) on a dating app in a far away country literally on the other side of the world.
Anne and I really hit it off. We definitely envisioned being married to each other save one major detail. I am not going to leave my very good job in the US, and she is afraid to leave her country even for vacation.
More about Anne, she had a hard childhood, but succeeded anyway. She is well educated, and while she does not live in what most Americans would consider privilege, she does not live in poverty either. She is extremely proud of being an independent woman and earning her own way.
While I am financially successful, and that has enabled me to meet Anne by traveling, money has nothing to do with our relationship; I look very young for my age, and Anne looks a few years older than her age.
During my time with Anne, she fell pregnant. And while, it would not exactly be correct to say the pregnancy was planned, I would also mention that I have never had an accidental pregnancy with any of my partners.
Anne is due next month, and I have started to send her monthly payments through WhatsApp. This has made her extremely angry, and she has asked me to stop.
She says that because we are not technically together, I should not be paying her, and she can pay her own way, and doesn’t need my “charity”
This seems so ridiculous to me, even a below average earner in the US would be able to send decent chunks of money due to conversion rates, and I am EXTREMELY PRIVILEGED, even for someone in the US.
I have tried to tell her that this not charity, it is my child, so it’s my responsibility, but this has not helped
I’m not sure how I can sit here and not send money to my only child (there is no doubt the child is mine) that could give them a much better life and future, when the amount of money isn’t even noticeable to me!
Would I be the asshole if I continued to send money to my baby momma, despite her wishes I not do so?