So I (19F) am in a trio friend group. One of my friends is a HUGE fan of a specific artist, she’s loved him for years. Her biggest dream is to see him live. Her second dream is to visit London.
So when she found out he was going on tour and stopping in London, she asked me and our other friend if we wanted to come along this summer. We thought it sounded like a great way to start the summer, and we like the artist too, so we said yes.
We checked dates, and the ticket sale was about a week away. Over those days, we all agreed we’d try to get tickets.
Then, two days before the ticket sale, I found out that a band me and my other friend absolutely LOVE (like, one of our biggest shared interests) is playing a concert just 1/2 days after the first concert.
And here’s the thing, they’re playing only about 3 hours away from London.
We live far from London and don’t travel there often, so for us it was like "we literally can’t go all the way to London and NOT see them when we’re that close." It’s honestly one of our dreams.
But the problem is: the friend who originally planned the trip HATES this band. She refuses to listen to them and said that if we go to that concert, she doesn’t even want to come on the trip anymore.
We tried to say she could still join (the concert), even if she doesn’t like the music. Like, we’re traveling together, we should be able to compromise a bit.
The issue is that it would mean she’d be alone at the hotel for a big part of the day, since she doesn’t want to go out alone and also REFUSES to pay for a ticket.
I feel like if the roles were reversed, i would either go anyway or just stay at the hotel, watch movies, order food, etc.
We didn’t really resolve it at the time. The ticket sale happened, and we managed to get tickets for the original concert and booked the trip.
Now it’s been 2 months, and me and the other friend haven’t bought tickets yet, but we are both sure we are going.
Our thought is: it’s 2 vs 1, and when you travel together, you sometimes have to compromise.
But we also feel kind of guilty.
So… AITA