Roommates don’t want my boyfriend to sleepover. How do I go about this reasonably?
I live in a house with 3 other girls and we all have our own rooms. I casually asked yesterday what their opinion on letting my boyfriend sleepover occasionally and they all said they had pretty strict rules on no guys sleeping over. That was pretty much the end of it because I was heading out and kind of just shocked a little lol. My boyfriend and I have known each other about 2 years now and been together for a little over 1. Before I moved away for college we spent probably like 6 days a week together because I lived close to his work. He now lives like 2 hours away which isn’t bad but if we are out late or something I don’t want him to have to drive all the way home.
I do understand how my roommates feel especially because we don’t have locks on our bedroom doors, and I get uncomfortable when people I don’t know come over, but coming from the side of someone in a relationship I would be ok if their boyfriend slept over on occasion as long as I had like met him and had a heads up. Right now we are like the only people our friends know with a house so we are constantly hosting and are just the hang out spot. My roommate hosted a giant house warming and my other roommate has band practice in the living room once a week. So I kind of feel like what’s the big deal if my boyfriend sleeps over once a month.
He really wouldn’t be staying the night that often at all because I’m just really busy. I work 30 hours a week and take 18 credit hours and I’m pre med so work and school consume my whole life lol. I really want my boyfriend to come to the church service that our church group does but it’s on Tuesday nights so I don’t want to make him drive home after.
Edit: now that I think about it I did have a conversation with one of the girls a few months ago before the lease was signed and she said as long as she had met him it would be ok with it. One girl also had her friend stay the night last night and didn’t tell me I just walked out and saw her with her pillow and in her pajamas. So at least I plan on telling them lol.
Also people keep mentioning that he will eventually be there every single day and he physically can not. He works 2 hours away at 5 am 5-6 days a week so unless he doesn’t want to pay his own rent and bills he can only be here 1 night anyway.