Plus One Reciprocity?
Me and my girlfriend of 6 years got engaged a few weeks ago! So lucky to spend the rest of my life with the person who makes me whole.
We’re sitting down and starting drafts on our guest list, and running into one particular challenge. One of my fiancée’s good childhood friends got married last year— average size wedding (about 120 guests) but ours will be slightly bigger. At this time, me and my fiancée had been together for 5 years and had been living together for 2– pretty obvious sign that we were going to be together for a while. I’d met her friend a few times but had never met her friend’s partner. They did NOT give my fiancée a plus one.
I was not hung up on not getting the invite as I wouldn’t have really known anyone at the wedding aside from my then-girlfriend but found it a bit offputting that I didn’t get a plus one. I know the etiquette is you always have to invite the married couples, but whereas their wedding was so recent, will this be viewed super negatively if we only extend my fiancée’s friend and invite and not her wife?
ETA: my fiancée had to fly to her friends wedding and it will be the same for her for ours.
ETA (again): Thanks, everyone! It sounds like we should just bite the bullet and invite them both. My fiancée isn’t hung up on the lack of +1, although she was a bit annoyed some of her other friends who had been with their partners for less time DID get one to that same wedding, so we’ll include the married couple. Money matters, but definitely not worth jeopardizing one of my fiancée’s friendships.