u/Legitimate-Tone9961

My boyfriend just asked me for a break. We’ve been together for almost a year. I don’t even know what to feel or do.
We were having an argument on how I feel like he isn’t here to support me or assure me when I’m upset at him, and he was arguing about how I get dry when I’m upset. I understood on my behalf that I shouldn’t have done that so I apologized for it.
Ofc, he didn’t apologize for how he made me feel. He never does it. In an argument, I’m always the one apologizing and trying to fix it while he kicks backs and relax, gaming with his friends while I cry myself to sleep.
Like, it’s so good when he’s good though :(
And I really love him. I don’t know what to do or feel anymore.

EDIT : Ahhh all of you guys are so sweet 😭 I’m sorry I didn’t respond to you all but I’m readingalll of them. Thank you guys so much for your input and support

I, 18F am currently dating 19M. We are both doing long distance and we’ve been dating for almost a year. (Known each other for about 3 years).

I love him dearly but I feel like we’re on opposite ends. We have nothing in common, different mindsets (ex : he’s “nonchalant” when we argue, I’m the one who’s crying trying to solve things) and I just feel like we’re not compatible.

Recently, (literally 30 minutes ago), we had an argument where I explained how I would’ve appreciated if he could listen and actually be immersed when I speak about things I’m passionate about. He told me that he can’t fake his enthusiasm for next time and that he’s just not interested in that and i can’t force him into changing his character for that. Like, I don’t even know what to do. And then, I also mentioned how I feel like I’m a second choice to him and his friends and he told me there’s nothing he can do about that. So, I told him that I would appreciate if he could just listen and try to understand how I feel but he said he couldn’t do that.

Mind you, he has always said that.

Personally for me, I feel like when dating, we must try to understand one another to truly feel loved, so idk this feels like a big thing for me.

I also asked him for love letter or cards because I adore them and I’ve always grew up making it for friends and family so idk it’s just something that I deeply value and the only thing I ask out of him. However, he told me he isn’t a writer at all and that he’s couldn’t make one even if he tried. I literally told him that a couple lines and him drawing stick figures are enough for me but he still wouldn’t get it.

I fee super selfish asking for these things from him but like GAAHAHH it’s complicated.

I still love him and I truly value everything he’d done for me. Example : flying out to see me, sweet talking me, complimenting me daily, etc.

I know we’re young but I feel like he truly can’t change. What should my next steps be? Keep in mind, I’m visiting him next month for our 1 year anniversary.

Edited : Update, we’re putting our issues aside and going back to normal. He told me he loves me and that he’s going to sleep on call now.