This happened in the last week and I'm still pissed about it. A little backstory, Me (22F) and my roommate Crystal (23F). Using fake names. We are moving out of our apartment and she is moving into a place with someone else and I decided to get a studio by myself. We have about a month left on our lease and she has already signed and got the keys to her new place.
She ended up moving her bed and cats to the new apartment because its closer to the place we both work at. I just recently got my new apartment and I am starting to move but while she was staying at the other apartment. I felt annoyed, jealous and stressed that I was left at the other apartment. At the time it felt like I had to clean up the whole apartment by myself. She got super busy at work and didn't have time to come by and we have opposite schedules so we had a hard time picking a day and time for us both to clean the apartment.
Now we have a coworker that friends with both of us Shane(40ish), Fake name as well. I work my whole shift with him, Crystal is close with him as well. Now this is where I made a mistake, I got to work annoyed after cleaning a bit and feeling a little bitter and jealous. So once everyone else left and it was just me and Shane. I ranted to him about how I was feeling at the moment. I asked him not to tell her. He said he wouldn't, I know that I probably shouldn't have told him knowing that he is also friends with her but I felt so stressed out and I wanted to tell someone. I have confided in him in the past and he has helped out so I thought I could trust him.
A couple days ago she finally had time to come by and I was off that day, so we went through some items and talked about our plans to move out and when we were going to get all the items out of the apartment before the lease is up. After she was finished I was in my room with a video game open and she came in sitting on my bed. She then told me that he had told her what I said. I froze, I immediately explained that I was stressed out and was just needing to rant and that I didn't mean anything, she was thankfully understanding and I just explained that I got jealous that she already had her new apartment and I was stressed out with trying to find a new place. We ended up laughing about it but I did state to her how hurt I was that he told her after I asked him not to. She did say that if he told her I was just ranting she wouldn't be as mad.
I felt so embarrassed and betrayed. While feeling were running high I ended up sending a nasty text to him, it said,
'Shane are you serious right now. Why did you tell her that was a complete betray of trust I confided in you. Also I just wanted to rant for a second. Like I'm stressed out as it is. This made everything worse.'
After sending the text I ended up blocking him, I was worried I would keep messaging him nasty and mean messages and I wanted him to apologize in person. After a couple of days me and him are working together. I ended up running late due to stopping by my new apartment and dropping off some boxes. Once I had come in, it was just me and him and he gave me the keys to clock in but didn't talk to me at all. Both of us didn't talk to whole 8 hours. We interacted with customers just fine but did not talk to each other. He would usually wait for me and we would walk to our cars together, but he left first and I walked alone. I am feeling more pissed off and hurt that he wouldn't even talk to me. I am also worried he might make a problem at work. I finally have a place that is in walking distance to work. I do enjoy my job and I don't want to lose it due to this situation.
Now I am tempted to keep giving him the cold shoulder or if I should swallow my pride and talk to him. All I wanted was for him to apologize to me in person. Since I blocked him I am unsure that he apologized over text but this whole situation is just showing me that I am worth less than my roommate to him. So WIBTA if I kept ignoring him? Any advice is welcomed, I don't want this to affect my job.