I’m trying to make sense of a breakup and I feel like I’m going in circles.
My ex broke up with me about 3 weeks ago. Her message was basically that she loves me, I did nothing wrong, but she’s mentally not okay (depressed, overwhelmed) and can’t handle being in a relationship right now. She said she needs to be alone to heal and can’t give me what I deserve.
About a week after the breakup, she was still viewing my social media but I found her on dating apps. Around the same time, she blocked me on Instagram.
Then recently she added me back on Snapchat. I reached out, and she replied but said she was confused because I had said I wanted no contact. When I asked her directly if she wanted no contact, she said “honestly idk,” but then followed it with saying she wants to be left alone and heal on her own.
Since then, she’s still kept me added on Snapchat but hasn’t unblocked me on Instagram.
What’s really messing with me is her social media. She’s been reposting a lot of relationship-type content stuff about missing someone, how she’d be a good girlfriend, how it doesn’t make sense when two people like each other but aren’t together, etc. It feels like it could be about me, but it also makes me wonder if it’s about someone else.
So I’m stuck trying to understand
* If she couldn’t handle a relationship, why is she on dating apps so soon?
* Why post all this relationship stuff if she chose to leave?
* Why say “I love you” and “maybe we’ll get back together” in the breakup, but then ask for space now?
* Why say “idk” about no contact but still choose distance?
* Why keep me on Snapchat but block me on Instagram?
* Is she talking about me in those posts, or could it be someone else?
* If she is with someone else and happy, why wasn’t she able to be with me?
I’m not reaching out anymore and trying to respect her space, but the mixed signals (adding me back, posts, apps, etc.) are making it hard to get closure or understand what’s actually going on.
Would appreciate any outside perspective because right now it just feels confusing.