Hi guys, I need your honest opinion on my 3-year relationship. I'm currently suffering from severe stress-induced nose bleeding and frequent blackouts. Here is the full story:
• The 3-Year Online Bond: We were in an online relationship for 3 years. He tried for a visa 8 times and failed. The 9th time he got it, flew to see me, but unfortunately got deported at the airport. He put in a lot of effort, and I stood by him.
• The Chennai Visit: 10 months ago, I flew to Chennai specifically to meet and marry him. But during those 10 months, I didn't meet him because I was struggling with binge eating and body image issues. I was insecure. He also suggested we get parents' approval first before meeting.
• The Photo Studio Incident: My grandma passed away in Feb. On March 5th, he asked for a professional pic to show his parents. I told him I’d go to a studio on the 7th. A heated argument broke out because he wanted it immediately. Result? He blocked me everywhere for a full month.
• The Shocking Call: After a month of silence, I called him from a relative's phone. He picked up and told me his parents had almost fixed an alliance for him during that one month! I asked him to meet me; he kept stalling (asked for 2 days, then another 2 days).
• Meeting the Parents: Fed up, I went to his house to meet his parents directly. His dad was decent, but his mom was totally humiliating.
• The Caste Lie: For 3 years, he (who is nearly 30) told me he didn’t know his caste. But when I met his dad, I found out we are actually the same caste. Why hide such a basic truth for 3 years?
• The Current Situation: Now that I'm hospitalized with stress-related bleeding, he is messaging me: "Please leave me, I'm begging you," "Don't create problems for my family," "Family already fixed a wedding." He even tried to send me money via GPay to "settle" the mone which i gave him during his hard time.
My Questions to you guys:
- Am I wrong for going to his house?
- I feel like my love was real, but he’s treating me like a "problem" now that I’m sick. What should I do?
Indha relationship full uh he was decent only he flew oceans to meet me and got deported . I have no complaints with him . Na Chennai vandhadhu Evanuku kaga dhan i paused my studies ippo thiripi poga visa kadaikuradhu oru problem aieduchu. Evanum eppidi panitan carrier and life yellamae oru question mark . Avan Amma ku seziure problem iruku nu bayandhu eppidi lam pandran . Please give me your utmost honset opinion 😭
( i used ChatGPT to summarise my story ) am 25 years old .